Hey dude, I want to talk about an issue most men don't talk to other men about. Most of us are too ashamed to talk about it, let alone seek any help for it. Yet it affects a staggering number of us guys. So I'll cut to the chase: I'm talking about depression. Maybe you've sought help and been diagnosed by a professional, or perhaps you just know deep down that you're unhappy and something is wrong with your life but you're not sure what. Perhaps you feel hopeless for no good reason, or you just can't get motivated, or the light has simply gone out of your life. It's a painful place to be. Psychiatrists will tell you that depression is a "chemical imbalance in the brain", and they're right. But that's only half the story. The obvious question to ask is: what causes the chemical imbalance? Psychologists argue about nature versus nurture; and they'll probably keep arguing forever. Here are two simple answers: 1. Not getting your needs met. 2. Suppressing your emotions. If you have either or both of these going on for an extended period, it starts to affect your brain chemistry on a physical level. This is just your brain's way of alerting you so you can deal with the underlying problem. That's why it's painful. Like physical pain, mental pain stops you in your tracks in order to get your attention. Many of us in western society resort to medication nowadays to make the pain go away. If that's the route you choose, that's fine. But be aware that there's a catch: anti-depressants will numb you and and reduce your motivation to deal with the issues that are stopping your getting your needs met. They'll also suppress your emotions. Well isn't that interesting? That's exactly what caused the problem in the first place! So here's a question for you: Do you really think you'd be depressed if you were living the life of your dreams? Probably not! I have another way of looking at depression that's equally valid to the one your psychiatrist will tell you: You don't know who you are... yet. This may sound rather zen when you first hear it, but once you start the journey of discovering your true self, it makes total sense. You're depressed because you're missing something. A key ingredient of self-awareness. And if I was to summarise that ingredient in one word, it would be: Confidence. I'm not talking fake-it-till-you-make-it here. Chances are you've already tried that. I'm talking deep, inner confidence. When you have it, you know deep down that you have the capacity to get your needs met. You also know how to master your emotions so that they guide you in life, instead of controlling and inhibiting you. This is not a journey for the faint-hearted. It means taking full responsibility for your life, dealing with some tough issues from the past and learning to live in the present. You probably also have a backlog of unexpressed emotions to release before that chemical imbalance settles down. If you need medication as a stop-gap measure to get you through, by all means take it. And if you're already on medication, definitely do not stop taking it just because you've read this. Start taking action instead. The journey ahead may be challenging, but it's also incredibly fulfilling and tremendously rewarding and you come alive, perhaps for the first time. It can also be great fun. But it would help to have someone to guide you, wouldn't it? Someone who's been there himself. And that's exactly what the Confident Man Program is: A step-by-step guide for dealing with the toughest issues in life so that you can get in touch with your inner confidence. The 250-page program guide covers everything you need to know about your Mindset, Emotional Mastery, Confidence with Women and Life Skill to put depression behind you and live the life of your dreams. Bonus audio downloads and ebooks fill in any blanks to give you the most comprehensive confidence-building program for men out there. If you're depressed, you owe it to yourself to do this program. Life rewards the man who takes action. Taking action consistently towards your goals will defeat depression over time. Start taking action today. Click here to get the Confident Man Program now
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
Are you suffering from depression?
Are you afraid of missing out in life?
Hey dude, I have some tough questions for you, but I think you're up to the task. So let's be straight with each other: How's your life going? How's it really going? Are you in a relationship with the girl of your dreams? Married? Engaged? Dating? Do you have a kick-ass job that you absolutely love? Is the money flowing your way? Do you have hobbies that you're passionate about? Are you surrounded by supportive friends who are living the lives of their dreams too? Or are you still single after all these years? Stuck in a dead-end job? Surrounded by losers? Lacking passion for anything? I know it may be a painful topic but also ask yourself this: Are you afraid of missing out on what you really want in your life? This question is so painful for many guys that they settle for what they think they can get in life, instead of going after what they really want. And the problem with settling is that deep down, you'll know that you deserved better. The people you settle with will sense it too. Either you'll live out the rest of your life in denial and unhappiness, or you'll end up having a mid-life crisis or mental breakdown. It never goes well in the end. All because you were afraid of missing out. If you're afraid of missing out, there's a valuable message in that fear for you. It's telling you that you're missing a key ingredient that every man needs in order to be successful in life: Confidence. Pure and simple. Success in life is attracted to confidence in a man. If you have it, success comes your way. If not, it will pass you by no matter how hard you work. If you're afraid of missing out on the life of your dreams, or you just don't even know what that life would look like, it simply means that you haven't yet built the confidence you need to know deep down that it's coming your way real soon now. A lot of guys blame other people for their own fears and failures. They use every excuse in the book to avoid taking responsibility for their own lack of inner self-confidence. Then they wonder why their life isn't working, and women don't find them attractive. Don't be one of those guys. It doesn't help, and it's not necessary because there is hope. You can build the true inner confidence that will attract the life of your dreams. All you need is a little guidance to help you get in touch with your true inner self. And that's exactly what the Confident Man Program gives you: a fun, step-by-step guide to building the self-confidence you need to live the life of your dreams. So why waste any more time living in fear, when you can start living with confidence instead? Grab it now by clicking here
Are you frustrated with your life?
Hey there, I have a question for you that could change your life: Do you feel frustrated with your life? Or to go deeper: Are you stuck in a dead-end job? Uncertain what you really want to do? Do you find yourself feeling angry and not knowing why? Do you wonder why the girls you like don't seem to like you? Have you given up when it comes to women, dating, sex and relationships? OK, that's enough... I know these can be painful questions. So I want to let you in on a secret that enlightened people have known for centuries which will help you dissolve your frustration: The world is a mirror to a man's subconscious. Everything you experience in your life is a reflection of what's going on deep down in your own mind. It may seem a little woo-woo at first, but once you learn to recognise this you'll see how true it is. Part of the problem we have in dealing with the subconscious is that's where our emotions arise, and in our society most guys have never learned the key skill of emotional mastery. So let's talk about some of the more troubling emotions for a moment: Frustration is a mixture of anger and sadness. It's a normal response to not getting our needs met. If you're experiencing frustration with your life, it means that something is stopping you getting your needs met. And that something always boils down to an emotion in your subconscious. If you direct your frustration outwards, you may act aggressively towards other people and end up hurting them; which will lead to feelings of guilt. If you direct your frustration inwards, you may end up depressed and wondering why other people avoid you. Either way, you end up with low self-esteem and stuck in a vicious cycle. Underneath the frustration will be a feeling of powerlessness. We live in a culture that teaches us to avoid unpleasant feelings, and there are lots of ways to avoid feeling powerless: we can blame others, we can take drugs and alcohol, we can deny the problem exists, we can put on an act of bravado, we can act like a jerk or we can become overly self-reliant. Anything that will help us avoid facing the painful underlying issues behind it. Ironically, the first step to overcoming frustration is to accept that we are powerless. If you've done any Twelve-Step work, you'll recognise this as Step 1. It may seem a paradox, but once we admit that we are powerless, we're able to reach out to others for the help that we need to step into our own power. The truth is that you simply can't become a powerful man on your own. You need help from other men. It took me a long time to learn to admit to myself that I was powerless. One of the ways it showed up in my life was denying that I needed help, support and guidance from other men who had once been where I was. I would see products like the Confident Man Program which promised me freedom from the frustration that I felt; but I wouldn't buy them. I preferred to "work it out myself" thinking that self- reliance would make me more confident than following someone else's advice. Avoiding taking action to get this advice was just another way that my underlying sense of powerlessness kept me frustrated; even though the answers I needed were available right in front of me. This meant learning everything from scratch all the time. It took forever. Eventually I worked out that I could end my suffering much sooner by getting advice from good mentors, including books and programs like Confident Man. Once we recognise our true nature and get in touch with our inner power, we no longer feel powerless. Instead, we have feelings of inner confidence. Frustration then dissolves as we start getting our needs met more and more often. The Confident Man Program will put you in touch with your power as a man. If you'd like to end the frustration that you feel in life and learn how to overcome your feelings of powerlessness, click here toget the Confident Man Program
Do you feel like a failure?
Hey there, I have some tough questions for you: Do you feel like a failure in life? Have you failed to achieve what you wanted to achieve so far? Ever feel like life is passing you by and you don't know what to do? I know this can be painful to admit, but if this sounds like you, there's a key ingredient that you're missing: Confidence! What do I mean by Confidence? I'm talking about a deep felt sense of inner trust in yourself. Knowing who you really are, what's important to you in life, how to go about getting it, and having the self-belief necessary to overcome any obstacles that get in your way. A lack of confidence can show up in a lot of ways: - Feeling like a failure generally - Being stuck in a dead-end job - Not having dreams and visions of your own - Not revealing your dreams to other people, or even to yourself - Fear of failure I could go on and on, but if this message resonates with you, you already know what I'm talking about. If you want to overcome the sense of failure that you currently feel, before you start spiralling down into full-blown depression, you need to take action. The only person who can turn this situation around is you. "But what action should I take?", you ask, "I don't know where to start!" If only there was a step-by-step guide out there written by someone who has travelled this road already. Fortunately there is: it's called The Confident Man Program. It will teach you how to unravel the core issues that have kept you stuck in your life so that you can throw away your old feelings of failure and start really living the life you were meant to live. And along the way you'll have a lot of fun! So here's the choice: Stay stuck feeling like a failure... Or take action today to change your life by starting The Confident Man Program. I can't do it for you. You need to start acting decisively, and this is your first challenge; Will you rise to it? Or will you stay stuck in the pattern of failure? To kick-start your future success today, grab the program now
Are You Afraid Of Talking To Beautiful Women?
Hi Dude, Do you suffer from approach anxiety, not knowing what to say, feeling like you're never good enough, putting women an a pedestal, trying to get beautiful women to like you, or just plain being overwhelmed with fear around hot women? There are a lot of books on talking to women out there, and most of them don't ever deal with the core problem a lot of men I know face when it comes to talking to beautiful women. The problem that leaves you feeling powerless around them. Something you learned early on in life and are probably still hanging onto because subconsciously you believe your very survival is at stake. The question to ask yourself if you feel fearful talking to beautiful women is: How do you feel around your mother? You need to answer this question honestly, and since you may be ashamed of the answer I'm not going to ask you to share it with anyone; but you do need to be honest with yourself about it. Many guys I know who struggle with anxiety when talking to beautiful women also find it difficult to really “be themselves” around their own mothers. Often they had an overly critical or controlling mother, and the hard truth is that they are still emotionally enmeshed in an adult/child relationship with her. Even if she's not alive any more. So why does this make you anxious around hot women? Well, there was a time in your life when your survival depended upon your mother. She had complete power over you and could control everything from what you ate and where you went, to what you did and who you spent your time with. As a baby you couldn't even feed yourself, so if she abandoned you, you would die. And you knew it. Like it or not, your mother had total power over you. Now that you're an adult, beautiful women have the power. In a society like ours where appearance gives women high social status, beautiful women have a lot of sexual power. If you're still enmeshed with your mother, your subconscious will project onto these women all the repressed fear, anxiety and anger that you may still be holding towards your controlling mother. That's why you freak out when you go to talk to them. Repressed emotions get triggered subconsciously whenever you go to talk to a powerfully beautiful woman. It's not your fault; it's just the way emotions in your brain work. You got wounded in your relationship with the first powerful woman in your life when you were a child, and now that wound is getting triggered by every hot woman you meet as an adult. So how do you get over this fear? You need to heal the wound and claim your power back by breaking the childish emotional connection that you have with your critical mother. Otherwise, anxiety will keep going off each time you encounter a beautiful woman. Stop giving your power away and quit seeking validation from attractive women. Take them off the pedestal and realise that they're no better than you. In fact, they have many of the same anxieties and struggles as you have; often more so. Most importantly, realise that they are not your mother and you don't need their approval. The process of severing the adult/child emotional connection between you and your mother is one of the most important stages in a man's development. Without doing this you'll subconsciously treat other women as your mother, constantly seeking from them the approval that you didn't get from her. This makes you a very unattractive proposition to high-status women, and will undermine any relationship that you do happen to get into with a woman. Get this right though, and the anxiety you feel around hot women will literally be a thing of the past. I call the process of switching the relationship with your mother (and other women) from adult/child to adult/adult "forgiveness". This will make total sense to you when you learn how to do this byreading Step 8: Forgive Your Mother in The Confident Man ProgramGuide
Do you feel frustrated with women?
Hey there, I have a question for you that could change your life: Do you feel frustrated with women? Or to go deeper: Do you wonder why the girls you like don't seem to like you? Do you feel hopeless when it comes to finding “the one” for you? Do you find yourself feeling angry with women and not knowing why? Do you get upset when you encounter rejection after rejection from women? Have you given up when it comes to women, dating, sex and relationships? Ok, that's enough... I know these can be painful questions. So I want to let you in on a secret that enlightened people have known for centuries which will help you dissolve your frustration with women: Women are a mirror to a man's subconscious. (In fact, everyone and everything in the world is a mirror to your subconscious. But since we're talking about women here, let's just focus on them for the time being.) Part of the problem we have in dealing with the subconscious is that's where our emotions arise, and in our society most guys have never learned the key skill of emotional mastery. So let's talk about emotions for a moment. Frustration is a mixture of anger and sadness. It's a normal response to not getting our needs met. If you're experiencing frustration with women, it means that some emotion in your subconscious is stopping you getting your needs met around women. If you direct your frustration with women outwards, you may act aggressively and end up hurting them which will lead to feelings of guilt. If you direct your frustration inwards, you may end up depressed and wondering why women avoid you. Either way, you end up with low self-esteem and stuck in a vicious cycle. Underneath the frustration will be a feeling of powerlessness. We live in a culture that teaches us to avoid unpleasant feelings, and there are lots of ways to avoid feeling powerless: we can blame women, we can take drugs and alcohol, we can deny the problem exists, we can put on an act of bravado, we can act like a jerk or we can become overly self-reliant. Of course none of these work in the long run. Ultimately, we need to face the painful underlying issues behind it. Ironically, the first step to overcoming frustration is to accept that we are powerless. If you've done any Twelve-Step work, you'll recognise this as Step 1. It may seem a paradox, but once we admit that we are powerless, we're able to reach out to others for the help that we need to step into our own power. The truth is that you simply can't become a powerful man on your own. You need help from other men. It took me a long time to learn to admit to myself that I was powerless. One of the ways it showed up in my life was denying that I needed help, support and guidance from other men who had once been where I was. I would see products like the Confident Man Program which promised me freedom from the frustration that I felt around women; but I wouldn't buy them. I preferred to “work it out myself” thinking that self-reliance would make me more confident than following someone else's advice. Avoiding taking action to get this advice was just another way that my underlying sense of powerlessness kept me frustrated; even though the answers I needed were available right in front of me. This meant learning everything from scratch all the time. It took forever. Eventually I worked out that I could end my suffering much sooner by getting advice from good mentors, including books and programs like Confident Man. Once we recognise our true nature and get in touch with our inner power, we no longer feel powerless. Instead, we have feelings of inner confidence. Frustration with women then dissolves. The Confident Man Program will put you in touch with your power as a man. If you'd like to end the frustration that you feel towards women and learn how to overcome your feelings of powerlessness around them, click here to get the Confident Man Program
Do you feel like a failure around women?
Hey Dude, I know this can be a painful question, especially when you're going through a woman-drought, but we need to ask ourselves tough questions sometimes if we want to be successful: How do you feel around women? Do you feel like a failure? Not good enough? Inadequate? Afraid? Perhaps you've become jaded and given up. Well I'm here to tell you that there's hope; even for a guy like you. Because I used to be you: feeling like a failure around women. And then I discovered the secret ingredient a man needs in order to be successful around women. When Sean Connery was asked what it was that made him so successful around women, he said: "It's Confidence, Confidence, Confidence". The real question is though: how do you get it? You build real inner confidence by addressing four areas of your life: 1. The way you think (your mindset) 2. The way you handle your feelings (emotional mastery) 3. The way you relate to women (attraction & relationship skills) 4. Your general life skills and life experience This is exactly what the Confident Man Program does: it's a step-by- step guide to handling all these four key areas of life. By following the program you'll learn: - Where your limiting beliefs about yourself came from - How to fix them permanently - How to dissolve the anxiety that you feel around women - How to relate to women powerfully - Skills that will turn you from a Chump into a Chick Magnet This isn't about faking it until you make it or learning cheesy pickup lines; it's about getting in touch with the unique, authentic man inside you who you've been suppressing up until now. So if you'd like to turn your failures with women into successes, grab the Confident Man Program here
Are you afraid of missing out with women?
Hey dude, I have some tough questions for you, but I think you're up to the task. So let's be straight with each other: How's your relationship going? How's it really going? Are you in a relationship with the girl of your dreams? Married? Engaged? Dating? Are you still single after all these years? Or worse, have you settled for a relationship with a woman who deep down, you know really isn't the girl of your dreams simply because you're afraid of missing out with women? This is so painful for many guys to face that they settle for what they think they can get in a woman, instead of going after what they really want. And the problem with settling is that deep down, you'll know that you deserved better. Eventually she'll sense it too. Either you'll live out the rest of your life in denial and unhappiness, or you'll end up breaking up. It never goes well in the end. All because you were afraid of missing out. But there's a valuable message in that fear for you. It's telling you that you're missing a key ingredient that every man needs in order to be successful with the women of his dreams. No doubt you've heard it before, and it may be painful to acknowledge that what you're missing is: Confidence. Pure and simple. Attractive women are attracted to confidence in a man. If you have it, they come your way. If not, they leave you feeling frustrated and alone. If you're afraid of missing out on the girl of your dreams, it simply means that you haven't yet built the confidence you need to know deep down that she's coming your way in life real soon now. Some guys blame women for their own failure to find the girl of their dreams. They use every excuse in the book to avoid taking responsibility for their own lack of inner self-confidence. Then they wonder why women don't find them attractive. Don't be one of them. You can build the true inner confidence that will attract the right woman for you, and end up with the girl of your dreams. All you need is a little guidance to help you get in touch with your true inner self. And that's exactly what the Confident Man Program gives you: a fun, step-by-step guide to building the self-confidence you need to find the woman of your dreams. So why waste any more time living in fear of missing out, when you can start living with confidence instead? Grab it now by clicking here
Friday, May 24, 2013
How To Make A Woman Trust You Completely
I'm about to reveal a little-known secret of human persuasion that can induce the woman to feel complete trust for you, and have sex with you... even if it's the very first date.
You see, for a woman to have sex with a guy, she must not only be attracted to him, but she must also trust him. Look at it like this:
1. Trust Without Attraction = "He's a great friend and I love him to death!" (Translation: "We'll NEVER have sex!")
2. Attraction Without Trust = "I'm not a loose woman. He'll have to wait before he gets any!"
However, if the woman has both attraction AND trust for the guy, she'll be literally begging you to take her home with you that night.
Let's take a typical scenario. Say it's coming up on 11 PM, and you've been with a woman since 6 that afternoon. As long as you've had good rapport with her and you've kept pushing the interaction forward, you can assume she's attracted to you.
And by the way, with a woman, you should always assume attraction until proven otherwise. Because as long as you've got good body language, you've got a lot going on in your life, and you're witty and interesting, she WILL be attracted to you.
Now you need to build trust. By the time you finish this article, you'll know an easy, efficient way to do that.
And by the way, this is a one of the best-kept secrets of human persuasion. The most successful advertisers and salesmen use it to make billions... and now you'll be able to use it with women.
Have you ever noticed how ads will sometimes mention minor defects in the products? A famous example of this was the wildly successful Volkswagen Beetle ads from 30 years ago that had the huge headline: "Lemon."
The point of the ad was that not all of their cars were perfect. VW took its quality inspections so seriously that it took note of even small weaknesses in the builds of its cars.
You see, if a person tells you something that's against his self-interest, you tend to trust him more. We all do. It's a fundamental trait of human psychology.
So when it comes to women, you should point out your minor flaws. Examples could be:
- "I have an ugly mole on my neck. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about it."
- "I had to give a speech last week and felt so nervous!"
- "I don't always floss my teeth even though I should."
Even if they're fake flaws, it doesn't necessarily matter. By pointing them out, you create a perception of honesty within the woman.
Because she believes the minor imperfections about you, she'll believe the MAJOR PERFECTIONS about you as well.
This means that, having both attraction for AND trust in you, later that night she could be breathlessly panting, "I've never done it with a guy this soon before!"
- John Alexander
John Alexander is author of "How to Become an Alpha Male" ... a seduction success guide for men. Learn the 7 Step Seduction System that takes you from saying "hello" to a new woman... to sharing orgasms in bed with her... in just one evening!
You see, for a woman to have sex with a guy, she must not only be attracted to him, but she must also trust him. Look at it like this:
1. Trust Without Attraction = "He's a great friend and I love him to death!" (Translation: "We'll NEVER have sex!")
2. Attraction Without Trust = "I'm not a loose woman. He'll have to wait before he gets any!"
However, if the woman has both attraction AND trust for the guy, she'll be literally begging you to take her home with you that night.
Let's take a typical scenario. Say it's coming up on 11 PM, and you've been with a woman since 6 that afternoon. As long as you've had good rapport with her and you've kept pushing the interaction forward, you can assume she's attracted to you.
And by the way, with a woman, you should always assume attraction until proven otherwise. Because as long as you've got good body language, you've got a lot going on in your life, and you're witty and interesting, she WILL be attracted to you.
Now you need to build trust. By the time you finish this article, you'll know an easy, efficient way to do that.
And by the way, this is a one of the best-kept secrets of human persuasion. The most successful advertisers and salesmen use it to make billions... and now you'll be able to use it with women.
Have you ever noticed how ads will sometimes mention minor defects in the products? A famous example of this was the wildly successful Volkswagen Beetle ads from 30 years ago that had the huge headline: "Lemon."
The point of the ad was that not all of their cars were perfect. VW took its quality inspections so seriously that it took note of even small weaknesses in the builds of its cars.
You see, if a person tells you something that's against his self-interest, you tend to trust him more. We all do. It's a fundamental trait of human psychology.
So when it comes to women, you should point out your minor flaws. Examples could be:
- "I have an ugly mole on my neck. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about it."
- "I had to give a speech last week and felt so nervous!"
- "I don't always floss my teeth even though I should."
Even if they're fake flaws, it doesn't necessarily matter. By pointing them out, you create a perception of honesty within the woman.
Because she believes the minor imperfections about you, she'll believe the MAJOR PERFECTIONS about you as well.
This means that, having both attraction for AND trust in you, later that night she could be breathlessly panting, "I've never done it with a guy this soon before!"
- John Alexander
John Alexander is author of "How to Become an Alpha Male" ... a seduction success guide for men. Learn the 7 Step Seduction System that takes you from saying "hello" to a new woman... to sharing orgasms in bed with her... in just one evening!
Sunday, April 7, 2013
Using Romance To Get A Woman's Attention
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Now I want to rearrange whatever concept you may have about ROMANCE. I think that a lot of men are blowing their attempts to win over a girl because of the misconceptions they have about this matter.
Stop me if this sounds familiar. Guy asks out girl on their first date, girl says yes, guy brings out the heavy guns: flowers, chocolates, dinner for two at the most expensive restaurant in town.
Then, girl reacts in the most natural way by FREAKING OUT.
Why? Simple�she�s cornered, pressured and rushed into feeling things that are forced upon her�
�INSTEAD of being made to experience these intended emotions on her own.
Listen: spending on a date with a budget fit for a blockbuster movie does NOT a make for a romantic night.
What I want to drill into your head right now is the importance of being romantic and how to NATURALLY generate such feelings within her.
The key to this is in optimizing your overall attitude and mindset for romantic awesomeness. Being romantic is not just some mask you can put on and off when needed.
It�s a genuine part of your personality that is present in the different situations you�ll get into with her. Whether you�re approaching her for the first time or out on the hundredth date with your girl, romance should be ingrained throughout.
But what does being romantic TRULY mean? Right from the get-go, she needs to feel your ATTRACTION for her.
Otherwise, you�re at risk of being thrown in with the rest of the other guys who�ve been banished to the PLATONIC FRIENDS zone. Trust me, getting out of the Bermuda Triangle will seem easier by comparison.
So your lady has to get the general drift that you find her feminine charms hard to resist. So hard in fact, that you feel compelled to get to know her better and know what makes her tick.
What woman wouldn�t be curious (at the very least!) by the fact that some dude oozing with self-confidence is interested in her?
Since you want to make it known that you�re into her and that she�s hijacked your brain, does that mean you have to be crass, vulgar or PUSHY about it? Of course not.
Romance is a matter of ESCALATION. Start off with ambiguous hints about your true feelings until such a time that you can build enough familiarity and comfort to take things further.
As the saying (appropriately) goes, you get the chick by hatching the egg � and NOT by smashing it. Going the traditional route of overkill on the first date is a prime example of �smashing the egg�.
Baby steps never hurt anyone AS LONG as you�re consistent with your efforts to turn up the heat�
�and NOT giving the connection a chance to fade away.
A skilled blacksmith knows he can�t hope to make something worthwhile if you strike the iron long after it�s cooled down!
So, let me give you several unconventional ways to turn up the romance without looking like a sap:
- HUMOR is paramount. No guy got anywhere with a girl without first making her laugh a bit. Laughter is the best tool to loosen her up and make her FEEL GOOD.
Just make sure it�s not the self-depreciating kind of humor because it�s not a good thing for her to laugh (too much) at you. Sure, it�s fine to make fun of something funny that may have happened to you in the past, but don�t make jokes about �what a loser you are� (or anything else to that effect) � she just might believe you!
- Learn how to push the boundaries just a little bit. You can do this by teasing her, making fun of her, and giving her �a hard time� in a funny and sweet way.
Many women appreciate it when a guy pokes lighthearted (read: NOT mean-spirited) fun at them. When he�s not afraid to test the waters, it says a lot about his self-confidence.
- Don�t be afraid to discuss sexual matters as long as it�s within good taste and in the right context. Of course, you�ll want to handle this with a bit of caution.
You obviously don�t want to talk about sex when meeting her for the first time. But if she brings up the subject during your third date, by all means talk about it in a light and casual manner.
Just keep in mind not to be graphic and don�t flinch or look uneasy when you do talk about it. The point is to let her know that the topic doesn�t terrify you.
Besides, this is all part of building up the tension to a nice, simmering boil. This is where the term �slow burn� takes on a positive meaning.
- Talk about emotions. Women have a natural affinity for expressing and discussing their feelings, whether it�s joy, sadness etc. Use this to your advantage by getting her to talk about her ROMANTIC feelings.
To give you a quick recap of what I said last time, try asking her questions related to romance. Think of a situation you saw or heard about, describe it to her, give your opinion about it and ask HER what she thinks.
This is a great way for her to associate you with the emotions you want her to feel. When she thinks of you, you can bet that it�ll be in a romantic light.
- Find a reason to touch her. Again, this must be done in good taste especially if you�re just getting to know her. By this I mean touching only non-erogenous zones that won�t get you in hot water.
For instance, guide her with your hand on the small of her back (but no lower than that) if she�s going to sit down. Also, touch her hand (just) a FEW times when you�re stressing a particular point during a conversation.
The idea here is to get her used to physical contact with you because building COMFORT is the key to romance. A line from the movie �Pulp Fiction� says it all:
�This sensual thing's goin' on that nobody's talkin about, but YOU know it and SHE knows it��
Ain�t that the truth! Just because you�re touching her somewhere perfectly neutral doesn�t mean it won�t reverberate deep in her subconscious.
There�s certainly nothing wrong with a healthy dose of ambiguity. In a woman�s mind, red-hot attraction begins with thoughts along the lines of �IS he or isn�t he into me??�
You have no idea how GREAT it is to have her thinking about you like that.
- While the cheesy notion of romance is out, chivalry is still in style. Make it a point to open the door for her, whether she�s getting in and out of the car, or going in a restaurant (hopefully not the kind that costs and arm and a leg, but anyway�).
Order for the both of you by recommending a dish or drink that you think will suit her taste. Don�t make a big deal if she prefers something else; let her order what she does want, but do take the initiative to make a decision (in a non-pushy way of course).
There�s a little caveat to all of this though: your gestures should match the level of interest between you two. If you�re on the second date, it�s a good idea to hold a bit back on the mushy stuff. TEASING is more appropriate than going all out with the romance.
If you�re already sleeping together, then it�s pretty safe to say that you can go for the bigger measures of romance. You�ve already reached a significant milestone so your girl now has greater access to your soft side (as compared to when you just met).
(Of course, you�re NOT going to tell her you can�t do stuff for her because she doesn�t deserve it yet�unless you want to end up single real quick. Just give out the necessary amount of affection depending on the time!)
In general, you�ll want to make her feel SPECIAL in a way that�s appropriate to the current state of things between you two. It does take a bit of an eye to spot these subtle differences, but in time you�ll develop a sixth sense about these things.
If you want to accelerate the learning process however, here�s the quickest way to MASTERING the fundamentals of sure-fire seduction and really get the fireworks firing:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com
With practice makes perfect.
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
This article comes to you courtesy of www.meetyoursweet.com
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of seduction self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet�s �Fireworks With Females,� your first stop for gal-getting strategies that really deliver.
If you want quality women, and want more than just scripted lines and one night stands, if you want the confidence and winning attitude to take your skills and success to the next level, let Slade Shaw and the team challenge your beliefs about what women really want and how to be the guy that gets her attention, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real men!
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
The answer to your prayers is right here:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
Maybe approaching a gorgeous woman feels like walking into hostile territory. No longer do you have to be nervous or feel the gripping fear of screwing up. Take the time. Check it out.
Now I want to rearrange whatever concept you may have about ROMANCE. I think that a lot of men are blowing their attempts to win over a girl because of the misconceptions they have about this matter.
Stop me if this sounds familiar. Guy asks out girl on their first date, girl says yes, guy brings out the heavy guns: flowers, chocolates, dinner for two at the most expensive restaurant in town.
Then, girl reacts in the most natural way by FREAKING OUT.
Why? Simple�she�s cornered, pressured and rushed into feeling things that are forced upon her�
�INSTEAD of being made to experience these intended emotions on her own.
Listen: spending on a date with a budget fit for a blockbuster movie does NOT a make for a romantic night.
What I want to drill into your head right now is the importance of being romantic and how to NATURALLY generate such feelings within her.
The key to this is in optimizing your overall attitude and mindset for romantic awesomeness. Being romantic is not just some mask you can put on and off when needed.
It�s a genuine part of your personality that is present in the different situations you�ll get into with her. Whether you�re approaching her for the first time or out on the hundredth date with your girl, romance should be ingrained throughout.
But what does being romantic TRULY mean? Right from the get-go, she needs to feel your ATTRACTION for her.
Otherwise, you�re at risk of being thrown in with the rest of the other guys who�ve been banished to the PLATONIC FRIENDS zone. Trust me, getting out of the Bermuda Triangle will seem easier by comparison.
So your lady has to get the general drift that you find her feminine charms hard to resist. So hard in fact, that you feel compelled to get to know her better and know what makes her tick.
What woman wouldn�t be curious (at the very least!) by the fact that some dude oozing with self-confidence is interested in her?
Since you want to make it known that you�re into her and that she�s hijacked your brain, does that mean you have to be crass, vulgar or PUSHY about it? Of course not.
Romance is a matter of ESCALATION. Start off with ambiguous hints about your true feelings until such a time that you can build enough familiarity and comfort to take things further.
As the saying (appropriately) goes, you get the chick by hatching the egg � and NOT by smashing it. Going the traditional route of overkill on the first date is a prime example of �smashing the egg�.
Baby steps never hurt anyone AS LONG as you�re consistent with your efforts to turn up the heat�
�and NOT giving the connection a chance to fade away.
A skilled blacksmith knows he can�t hope to make something worthwhile if you strike the iron long after it�s cooled down!
So, let me give you several unconventional ways to turn up the romance without looking like a sap:
- HUMOR is paramount. No guy got anywhere with a girl without first making her laugh a bit. Laughter is the best tool to loosen her up and make her FEEL GOOD.
Just make sure it�s not the self-depreciating kind of humor because it�s not a good thing for her to laugh (too much) at you. Sure, it�s fine to make fun of something funny that may have happened to you in the past, but don�t make jokes about �what a loser you are� (or anything else to that effect) � she just might believe you!
- Learn how to push the boundaries just a little bit. You can do this by teasing her, making fun of her, and giving her �a hard time� in a funny and sweet way.
Many women appreciate it when a guy pokes lighthearted (read: NOT mean-spirited) fun at them. When he�s not afraid to test the waters, it says a lot about his self-confidence.
- Don�t be afraid to discuss sexual matters as long as it�s within good taste and in the right context. Of course, you�ll want to handle this with a bit of caution.
You obviously don�t want to talk about sex when meeting her for the first time. But if she brings up the subject during your third date, by all means talk about it in a light and casual manner.
Just keep in mind not to be graphic and don�t flinch or look uneasy when you do talk about it. The point is to let her know that the topic doesn�t terrify you.
Besides, this is all part of building up the tension to a nice, simmering boil. This is where the term �slow burn� takes on a positive meaning.
- Talk about emotions. Women have a natural affinity for expressing and discussing their feelings, whether it�s joy, sadness etc. Use this to your advantage by getting her to talk about her ROMANTIC feelings.
To give you a quick recap of what I said last time, try asking her questions related to romance. Think of a situation you saw or heard about, describe it to her, give your opinion about it and ask HER what she thinks.
This is a great way for her to associate you with the emotions you want her to feel. When she thinks of you, you can bet that it�ll be in a romantic light.
- Find a reason to touch her. Again, this must be done in good taste especially if you�re just getting to know her. By this I mean touching only non-erogenous zones that won�t get you in hot water.
For instance, guide her with your hand on the small of her back (but no lower than that) if she�s going to sit down. Also, touch her hand (just) a FEW times when you�re stressing a particular point during a conversation.
The idea here is to get her used to physical contact with you because building COMFORT is the key to romance. A line from the movie �Pulp Fiction� says it all:
�This sensual thing's goin' on that nobody's talkin about, but YOU know it and SHE knows it��
Ain�t that the truth! Just because you�re touching her somewhere perfectly neutral doesn�t mean it won�t reverberate deep in her subconscious.
There�s certainly nothing wrong with a healthy dose of ambiguity. In a woman�s mind, red-hot attraction begins with thoughts along the lines of �IS he or isn�t he into me??�
You have no idea how GREAT it is to have her thinking about you like that.
- While the cheesy notion of romance is out, chivalry is still in style. Make it a point to open the door for her, whether she�s getting in and out of the car, or going in a restaurant (hopefully not the kind that costs and arm and a leg, but anyway�).
Order for the both of you by recommending a dish or drink that you think will suit her taste. Don�t make a big deal if she prefers something else; let her order what she does want, but do take the initiative to make a decision (in a non-pushy way of course).
There�s a little caveat to all of this though: your gestures should match the level of interest between you two. If you�re on the second date, it�s a good idea to hold a bit back on the mushy stuff. TEASING is more appropriate than going all out with the romance.
If you�re already sleeping together, then it�s pretty safe to say that you can go for the bigger measures of romance. You�ve already reached a significant milestone so your girl now has greater access to your soft side (as compared to when you just met).
(Of course, you�re NOT going to tell her you can�t do stuff for her because she doesn�t deserve it yet�unless you want to end up single real quick. Just give out the necessary amount of affection depending on the time!)
In general, you�ll want to make her feel SPECIAL in a way that�s appropriate to the current state of things between you two. It does take a bit of an eye to spot these subtle differences, but in time you�ll develop a sixth sense about these things.
If you want to accelerate the learning process however, here�s the quickest way to MASTERING the fundamentals of sure-fire seduction and really get the fireworks firing:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com
With practice makes perfect.
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
This article comes to you courtesy of www.meetyoursweet.com
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of seduction self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet�s �Fireworks With Females,� your first stop for gal-getting strategies that really deliver.
If you want quality women, and want more than just scripted lines and one night stands, if you want the confidence and winning attitude to take your skills and success to the next level, let Slade Shaw and the team challenge your beliefs about what women really want and how to be the guy that gets her attention, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real men!
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
Tips For Getting And Keeping The Body Women Love
FACT: your BODY is an ESSENTIAL part of being attractive to women.
There are no ifs, ands, or buts about this matter. There�s no getting around to maintaining a great body that�ll keep women interested in you.
But before you start panicking, let me just say that it�s NOT what you think.
Maybe you�re already spiraling into a heap of self-pity at the thought of perfectly sculpted male models flaunting their brawn in magazines. Perhaps seeing those flawless celebrities on TV with screaming women in the background will lead you to think that you can�t possibly measure up to them.
Perhaps you want to scream, �Crikey, hot women will ONLY go for men like THOSE�how could *I* ever hope to date chicks of that caliber?!�
Well my friend, I want you to gather all those pre-conceived notions you have about physical looks and take a sledgehammer to them.
It�s all part of reprogramming your ideas about seduction and attraction, which begins with Meet Your Sweet�s groundbreaking book for men:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
Got it? OK�
So: if you believe that you have to look like those guys in order to be outrageously attractive, you�re dead wrong. Look at the world around you and you�ll know I�m right.
Take a stroll around the shopping mall, a park or any other populated area. You�ll find average-looking guys who DON�T look like an actor are holding hands with the hottest babes in the vicinity.
I�m talking about the men who make you think �HOW in the hell did she end up with HIM?�
Are you going to tell me that those men are just a fluke? Are you going to deny the fact that they simply know something that you DON�T?
Take the shutters off your eyes and realize that you too can pull this off! If a regular guy (on the outside at least) can date beautiful women, you can surely do the SAME.
The good news is that your less-than-perfect body is VERY much capable of attracting hordes of gorgeous women.
Even rock stars who dress like they crawled out of a dumpster are able to draw women like moths to a flame. Well, maybe they�re a freak exception because of the baked-in charm that comes with being in a band.
Those guys live on another plane of reality, so the non-rock star demographic can still score big with the beautiful and brainy ladies.
First of all, you need to wrap your mind around this basic truth: the ability to attract women NEVER comes from an outside factor. It�s already within you, and all you need is to get accustomed to using these inner traits.
Thus, you need to STOP comparing yourself to other men. Doing so is the path to madness.
OF COURSE there�s going to be someone who�s thinner, brawnier, richer, taller, or stronger than you.
BUT does that have anything to do with your own attractiveness? Does the existence of �better� men statistically reduce your chances to have a sizeable piece of the action?
That�s a big �N� to the �O�. There are literally millions of women out there, and at least a handful of them will find you attractive.
Yes, YOU. They can AND will see you in an attractive light if you unlearn whatever standards of physical beauty you�ve been made to believe in.
Don�t fret about losing ALL the good women to other guys; there�s plenty enough to go around for everyone.
The problem with us guys is that we�re primarily into the visual aspect of attraction when it comes to selecting a partner. Before a man finds a girl attractive, she�s gonna have to fit into his particular set of criteria.
This is why some men automatically ASSUME that women think the same way.
REALITY CHECK: NOT all women need their man to have impossibly good looks to feel attracted to them.
Look, I�m not saying that better-looking guys don�t have an advantage. But what I am saying is that YOU don�t need those things to attract women yourself.
And I�m not trying to contradict myself by saying that looks ARE important. It�s just that it�s not important in the way you might THINK it is.
Let me re-frame your concept of looking good. Physical attributes matter in a �I-look-after-myself-and-care-about-being-a-clean-presentable-man-who-is-serious �about-meeting-women� kind of way.
In other words, it�s more of showing everyone that you have the HABIT of looking the very best you can.
Even a naturally handsome guy would horribly lower his chances if he let himself go. You know: not taking a shower, not shaving, letting his fingernails grow disgustingly long, and so on.
Basically, you�re gonna have to be at your physical best, regardless of the mug you were born with. NO ONE is exempt from this � well, at least those who want to meet and date women.
Let�s get the matter of fitness out of the way. Even guys who are overweight can get beautiful women, but you�ll have an easier time if you have a relatively proportional body.
Besides, ANY guy will stand to benefit from working out on a regular basis. But it doesn�t have to be like the inhumanly merciless exercise program that the cast from �300� had to go through.
You don�t need a six pack, nor are you going to war with the Persian army.
All you need to do is come up with a reasonable schedule (like 2-3 times weekly) for cardiovascular activity. Don�t let the age-old �I don�t have time� excuse get in the way.
Even if you weren�t trying to attract women, working out regularly has been clinically proven to greatly reduce the risk of getting all those life-threatening problems you always hear about.
Not to sound preachy, but if you�re not going to do it for the ladies, at least do it for your own well-being. Any guy who stuck to a fixed workout schedule is bound to lose a few pounds at the very least!
Just as a warning, don�t try one of those fancy-schmancy diets you might have heard about. It�s not a good idea to shock your system by radically changing your eating habits.
You�re better off consulting with a licensed dietician, nutritionist or physician for sound and realistic advice on eating healthy. You could probably stick to working out, but improving your diet (read: not starving yourself) is going to give you quicker results.
Ok, now we move on to DETAILS. Women love a guy who pays attention to details, so I�ll give you a quick walkthough on this matter.
Let�s talk about HAIR. Get a reputable stylist to sit you down and figure out which style TRULY matches your facial features and the general shape of your head.
For instance, guys who are balding should just go all the way and shave their thinning dome. Don�t let errant, lingering, hairs dampen your sex appeal (think about Bill Murray�s character from the movie �Kingpin�!).
Beards and other forms of facial hair are fine as long as they�re trimmed and properly kept under control. Unless you�re only interested in fans of �Lord of The Rings�, don�t think that sporting a Gandalf beard is going to improve your chances.
The same goes for hair from the chest downwards. Modern technology has made it easier for guys to trim these areas, so invest in an electric razor or any other method that will help you in this regard.
Would you want your date to neglect her nether regions as well? Didn�t think so. Be a pal and return the favor.
Additionally, watch out for any stay hairs coming out of your ears or nostrils. Clippers and tweezers don�t cost much, so pick one and get to work.
Your finger and toenails need to be short and free of any grime underneath. If you have the budget for it, go to a men�s salon because they often include a foot scrubbing service along with the package. Otherwise, a pair of clippers isn�t going to break the bank.
Crooked or yellowish teeth need to be treated as well. Check with a specialist on which option will work for your budget. There are plenty of options out there, such as kits you can use at home, or setting an appointment with a qualified dentist.
Trust me, a polished smile is eye candy to women and they�ll definitely NOTICE it. So make the effort to do something about this matter.
Clothes are a bit of a tricky subject because everyone has different ideas about fashion. On a basic level however, your appearance must tell women that you took the time to look good by choosing threads that work best on your frame.
(Again, NOT about physical perfection�)
Generally, clothes with holes and torn seams are a no-no. Shirts and pants that are old and worn out give the impression that you�re immature and don�t care about looking nice for the ladies.
When it comes to picking out stuff that�ll look good on you, ask your friends and sales staff to help you make a decision. Sometimes it takes another pair of eyes to REALLY figure out the exact kind of clothes that suit your specific body type.
While your socks, shoes, belts, and wallet need to look crisp and neat (no scuffs or other battle damage please), they don�t exactly have to cost you a pretty penny outright.
Plenty of quality stuff is on sale in most shopping malls, so start looking there. There�s always a good bargain to be found if you take the time to look!
Lastly, don�t overstuff your pocket. Try not to put anything in there except for your wallet, cellphone and car keys. The less bulkier your pockets are, the sharper you look.
And that about does it. Remember, setting aside enough time for these things will benefit you greatly because it will manifest in how you look.
Women will see AND appreciate the effort you�ve gone through. If we�re defined by what we do repeatedly, then imagine what a habit of good style and grooming can do for you.
They don�t even have to say it � you�ll find that they�ll naturally be more open to chatting with you and you�ll have an easier time approaching them.
Furthermore, knowing that you�re at your best will greatly BOOST your self-confidence.
I mean, wouldn�t you feel more RELAXED and LESS ANXIOUS because you�re aware of how well-put together you are?
In case anyone hasn�t told you, it�s this exact kind of attitude that makes you more eye-catching to women.
Neglecting your looks will make you tense and even apologetic for the very space you�re occupying. That�s not a very attractive vibe to give off, now is it?
If you really want to seal the deal however, might I recommend an excellent book to bring out your seduction skills and self-confidence to the fullest:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
This empowering guide is a must-have for any guy who wants to be THE MAN when it comes to dating. The cool thing about it is that it�ll also improve the other areas in your life.
After all, having a confident personality will help you succeed in ALL of your pursuits, whether it�s your career or a relationship.
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
This article comes to you courtesy of www.meetyoursweet.com
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of seduction self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet�s �Fireworks With Females,� your first stop for gal-getting strategies that really deliver.
If you want quality women, and want more than just scripted lines and one night stands, if you want the confidence and winning attitude to take your skills and success to the next level, let Slade Shaw and the team challenge your beliefs about what women really want and how to be the guy that gets her attention, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real men!
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
There are no ifs, ands, or buts about this matter. There�s no getting around to maintaining a great body that�ll keep women interested in you.
But before you start panicking, let me just say that it�s NOT what you think.
Maybe you�re already spiraling into a heap of self-pity at the thought of perfectly sculpted male models flaunting their brawn in magazines. Perhaps seeing those flawless celebrities on TV with screaming women in the background will lead you to think that you can�t possibly measure up to them.
Perhaps you want to scream, �Crikey, hot women will ONLY go for men like THOSE�how could *I* ever hope to date chicks of that caliber?!�
Well my friend, I want you to gather all those pre-conceived notions you have about physical looks and take a sledgehammer to them.
It�s all part of reprogramming your ideas about seduction and attraction, which begins with Meet Your Sweet�s groundbreaking book for men:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
Got it? OK�
So: if you believe that you have to look like those guys in order to be outrageously attractive, you�re dead wrong. Look at the world around you and you�ll know I�m right.
Take a stroll around the shopping mall, a park or any other populated area. You�ll find average-looking guys who DON�T look like an actor are holding hands with the hottest babes in the vicinity.
I�m talking about the men who make you think �HOW in the hell did she end up with HIM?�
Are you going to tell me that those men are just a fluke? Are you going to deny the fact that they simply know something that you DON�T?
Take the shutters off your eyes and realize that you too can pull this off! If a regular guy (on the outside at least) can date beautiful women, you can surely do the SAME.
The good news is that your less-than-perfect body is VERY much capable of attracting hordes of gorgeous women.
Even rock stars who dress like they crawled out of a dumpster are able to draw women like moths to a flame. Well, maybe they�re a freak exception because of the baked-in charm that comes with being in a band.
Those guys live on another plane of reality, so the non-rock star demographic can still score big with the beautiful and brainy ladies.
First of all, you need to wrap your mind around this basic truth: the ability to attract women NEVER comes from an outside factor. It�s already within you, and all you need is to get accustomed to using these inner traits.
Thus, you need to STOP comparing yourself to other men. Doing so is the path to madness.
OF COURSE there�s going to be someone who�s thinner, brawnier, richer, taller, or stronger than you.
BUT does that have anything to do with your own attractiveness? Does the existence of �better� men statistically reduce your chances to have a sizeable piece of the action?
That�s a big �N� to the �O�. There are literally millions of women out there, and at least a handful of them will find you attractive.
Yes, YOU. They can AND will see you in an attractive light if you unlearn whatever standards of physical beauty you�ve been made to believe in.
Don�t fret about losing ALL the good women to other guys; there�s plenty enough to go around for everyone.
The problem with us guys is that we�re primarily into the visual aspect of attraction when it comes to selecting a partner. Before a man finds a girl attractive, she�s gonna have to fit into his particular set of criteria.
This is why some men automatically ASSUME that women think the same way.
REALITY CHECK: NOT all women need their man to have impossibly good looks to feel attracted to them.
Look, I�m not saying that better-looking guys don�t have an advantage. But what I am saying is that YOU don�t need those things to attract women yourself.
And I�m not trying to contradict myself by saying that looks ARE important. It�s just that it�s not important in the way you might THINK it is.
Let me re-frame your concept of looking good. Physical attributes matter in a �I-look-after-myself-and-care-about-being-a-clean-presentable-man-who-is-serious �about-meeting-women� kind of way.
In other words, it�s more of showing everyone that you have the HABIT of looking the very best you can.
Even a naturally handsome guy would horribly lower his chances if he let himself go. You know: not taking a shower, not shaving, letting his fingernails grow disgustingly long, and so on.
Basically, you�re gonna have to be at your physical best, regardless of the mug you were born with. NO ONE is exempt from this � well, at least those who want to meet and date women.
Let�s get the matter of fitness out of the way. Even guys who are overweight can get beautiful women, but you�ll have an easier time if you have a relatively proportional body.
Besides, ANY guy will stand to benefit from working out on a regular basis. But it doesn�t have to be like the inhumanly merciless exercise program that the cast from �300� had to go through.
You don�t need a six pack, nor are you going to war with the Persian army.
All you need to do is come up with a reasonable schedule (like 2-3 times weekly) for cardiovascular activity. Don�t let the age-old �I don�t have time� excuse get in the way.
Even if you weren�t trying to attract women, working out regularly has been clinically proven to greatly reduce the risk of getting all those life-threatening problems you always hear about.
Not to sound preachy, but if you�re not going to do it for the ladies, at least do it for your own well-being. Any guy who stuck to a fixed workout schedule is bound to lose a few pounds at the very least!
Just as a warning, don�t try one of those fancy-schmancy diets you might have heard about. It�s not a good idea to shock your system by radically changing your eating habits.
You�re better off consulting with a licensed dietician, nutritionist or physician for sound and realistic advice on eating healthy. You could probably stick to working out, but improving your diet (read: not starving yourself) is going to give you quicker results.
Ok, now we move on to DETAILS. Women love a guy who pays attention to details, so I�ll give you a quick walkthough on this matter.
Let�s talk about HAIR. Get a reputable stylist to sit you down and figure out which style TRULY matches your facial features and the general shape of your head.
For instance, guys who are balding should just go all the way and shave their thinning dome. Don�t let errant, lingering, hairs dampen your sex appeal (think about Bill Murray�s character from the movie �Kingpin�!).
Beards and other forms of facial hair are fine as long as they�re trimmed and properly kept under control. Unless you�re only interested in fans of �Lord of The Rings�, don�t think that sporting a Gandalf beard is going to improve your chances.
The same goes for hair from the chest downwards. Modern technology has made it easier for guys to trim these areas, so invest in an electric razor or any other method that will help you in this regard.
Would you want your date to neglect her nether regions as well? Didn�t think so. Be a pal and return the favor.
Additionally, watch out for any stay hairs coming out of your ears or nostrils. Clippers and tweezers don�t cost much, so pick one and get to work.
Your finger and toenails need to be short and free of any grime underneath. If you have the budget for it, go to a men�s salon because they often include a foot scrubbing service along with the package. Otherwise, a pair of clippers isn�t going to break the bank.
Crooked or yellowish teeth need to be treated as well. Check with a specialist on which option will work for your budget. There are plenty of options out there, such as kits you can use at home, or setting an appointment with a qualified dentist.
Trust me, a polished smile is eye candy to women and they�ll definitely NOTICE it. So make the effort to do something about this matter.
Clothes are a bit of a tricky subject because everyone has different ideas about fashion. On a basic level however, your appearance must tell women that you took the time to look good by choosing threads that work best on your frame.
(Again, NOT about physical perfection�)
Generally, clothes with holes and torn seams are a no-no. Shirts and pants that are old and worn out give the impression that you�re immature and don�t care about looking nice for the ladies.
When it comes to picking out stuff that�ll look good on you, ask your friends and sales staff to help you make a decision. Sometimes it takes another pair of eyes to REALLY figure out the exact kind of clothes that suit your specific body type.
While your socks, shoes, belts, and wallet need to look crisp and neat (no scuffs or other battle damage please), they don�t exactly have to cost you a pretty penny outright.
Plenty of quality stuff is on sale in most shopping malls, so start looking there. There�s always a good bargain to be found if you take the time to look!
Lastly, don�t overstuff your pocket. Try not to put anything in there except for your wallet, cellphone and car keys. The less bulkier your pockets are, the sharper you look.
And that about does it. Remember, setting aside enough time for these things will benefit you greatly because it will manifest in how you look.
Women will see AND appreciate the effort you�ve gone through. If we�re defined by what we do repeatedly, then imagine what a habit of good style and grooming can do for you.
They don�t even have to say it � you�ll find that they�ll naturally be more open to chatting with you and you�ll have an easier time approaching them.
Furthermore, knowing that you�re at your best will greatly BOOST your self-confidence.
I mean, wouldn�t you feel more RELAXED and LESS ANXIOUS because you�re aware of how well-put together you are?
In case anyone hasn�t told you, it�s this exact kind of attitude that makes you more eye-catching to women.
Neglecting your looks will make you tense and even apologetic for the very space you�re occupying. That�s not a very attractive vibe to give off, now is it?
If you really want to seal the deal however, might I recommend an excellent book to bring out your seduction skills and self-confidence to the fullest:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
This empowering guide is a must-have for any guy who wants to be THE MAN when it comes to dating. The cool thing about it is that it�ll also improve the other areas in your life.
After all, having a confident personality will help you succeed in ALL of your pursuits, whether it�s your career or a relationship.
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This article comes to you courtesy of www.meetyoursweet.com
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of seduction self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet�s �Fireworks With Females,� your first stop for gal-getting strategies that really deliver.
If you want quality women, and want more than just scripted lines and one night stands, if you want the confidence and winning attitude to take your skills and success to the next level, let Slade Shaw and the team challenge your beliefs about what women really want and how to be the guy that gets her attention, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real men!
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
Innovative Ideas For Dates She Will Never Forget
An overlooked approach to seduction is often found in meeting women through friends. There are advantages found in getting set up by your buddies or colleagues, as well as improving your odds through social networking sites.
These often overlooked avenues are GREAT ways to smoothly transition from acquaintances to friends�
�and hopefully, into potential lovers.
The key to doing that is by going on a DATE with her. There are two basic ways to gradually lead her into this, namely: hanging out with her along with your mutual friend(s) AND continuing the interaction online through networking sites like Facebook.
However, it�s cool if you�re the kind of guy who likes to do cold approaches on total strangers in everyday places like bookstores, record bars, convenience stores and so on. After all, there�s more than one way to skin a cat.
Regardless of your chosen method of meeting women however, you obviously need to go out with her on an exclusive date if a relationship is your goal.
Personally, the dating method I recommend is a gradual, multi-tiered approach. What I mean by that is I take things one step at a time, continuously gauging and ESCALATING a woman�s interest little by little.
You see, a successful pursuit is the result of mastering the COURTSHIP PROCESS whose length depends upon a given woman�s disposition. If you plan your dates around this basic context, it won�t be long until she�ll be chasing after you like a lovesick puppy.
So let me break down the dating structure I�ve successfully adapted over the years. Initially, you�ll need to know her better in a one-on-one environment before taking things up a notch.
That�s why your first date with her should be a RELAXED social affair. There shouldn�t be any pressure at all at this point (although a little sexual tension is fine and even expected), so keep things light and FUN.
You know the typical scene in a TV show where the leading lady is flustered over what to wear on the first date? Don�t put your woman in this predicament.
This clich� has been done to death and you should be SHAKING THINGS UP with her. If you want to break the mold, you�re going to have to skip the typical romantic date routine and be INNOVATIVE.
How do you do this? Simple � instead of asking your lady out to an expensive restaurant, meet up with her at a casual public place like a coffee shop or a juice bar.
This is an excellent way to minimize the natural jitters that come with a first date (for BOTH you and her). While you�ll NEVER really get rid of all those fluttering butterflies, you�ll have an easier time focusing on HER and have a good time all around.
After all, the point of going on a date is to ENJOY her company, and not treat it like it was a job interview where you have to prove yourself to her. Don�t fall into that NEEDY mindset.
Furthermore, innovative first dates like these happen to be VERY budget-friendly. NOT that I�m saying you should be a cheapskate, but splurging right at the beginning screws up the courtship process.
This isn�t about doing the �pulling-out-all-the-stops� kind of stuff, but rather doing them at the RIGHT TIME. In her mind, these things will have way more impact and value if they�re given as a reward rather than something that doesn�t need to be earned.
Besides, romance has a much easier time to blossom when you�re not projecting any expectations.
(I�m not saying though that it�s not possible for the sparks to fly so early on�)
In case that it does, your lucky date will feel like it�s the most NATURAL thing in the world because she wasn�t FORCED into it.
Bottom line: avoid making a huge production out of the first date.
With that said however, going on a low-pressure date doesn�t mean you shouldn�t plant subtle hints of romance in her head.
But we�ll save that for later � right now, let�s talk about setting up the first date.
I�m assuming at this point that you�ve already made initial contact with her (either through your friends or on your own) and have obtained that ever-important phone number.
Generally, it�s advisable to call her back within a maximum of one week after that first encounter. Wait any longer and the rapport that you have may FADE away into nothingness.
If at all possible, call her at HOME so she�ll have a better chance of writing down the details. Emails as well as voice and text messages are at risk of being accidentally deleted or overlooked. Even calling her mobile isn�t a good idea because she may be distracted or won�t have anything to write with.
If there�s one thing you should know about inviting her, it�s the importance of having a DEFINITE PLAN with specific details (i.e. the time and place where YOU want to meet). The worst way to do this is blurt something out like, �Hey there, remember me? Why don�t we grab a bite at any place you want�any time is good for me too��
Remember, women appreciate a guy with a firm masculine essence. If you�re gonna call her up and sound unsure, it�s a HUGE giveaway that you�re not really in control of your life.
Is she prejudging you? You better believe it. Don�t tell me that your own brain isn�t running in the background when you�re checking out potential women to approach.
That�s just the female mind at work, brother � sometimes, it�s better to go with the flow than against it.
As much as you can, suggest a place you�re already familiar with so you have the homecourt advantage. Like I said, you might feel antsy anyway, so you might as well pick a comfortable spot.
It�s only natural for anyone to have a sense of uneasiness when they�re on unfamiliar ground. Keep this at bay by inviting your girl somewhere you�d feel at home.
Keep in mind that your time and venue should be at a place convenient not just for her, but for you as well. It�s ok to be reasonably flexible about setting up a date - but not to the point where you have to travel half across town or cancel other important appointments just for her.
Once you�ve agreed to a date, it�s time to run you through the basics. As mentioned earlier, you�re going to have to get a head start on creating romantic thoughts swirling in that brain of hers.
The cool thing about the �casual� first date is that you can totally accomplish the said objective under the radar. In such a relaxed context, she won�t know what hit her!
So how do you create this effect? Well, it�s done through the little things.
When I say �little�, I�m referring to fleeting little indications that you�re into her. You don�t want to push her away by telegraphing TOO much interest early on, so you can do it in smaller, bite-sized chunks of subtlety.
When it comes to conversation, a woman will want to experience positive feelings while she�s talking to you. Making her feel good during a conversation is essential to generating major attraction.
The feminine essence is all about emotions; if you can trigger the right ones within your date, she�ll pin them on you. Play your cards right, and she�ll inexplicably be feeling very good the next time she thinks about you.
In this case, being guilty by association is a GOOD thing.
Focus on upbeat topics that serve a springboard for other positive things to talk about later on. For instance, try sharing interesting anecdotes.
A good way of doing this is by telling her about the time you got into a funny situation but came out of it OK. The point here is to give her an idea that you�re a relatively optimistic guy who can keep his cool and take the bad stuff in stride.
Her subconscious needs some assurance that you can handle life�s curveballs because you�ll eventually have to protect her from the same stuff later on. It�s simply her feminine side seeking the rock-steadiness of your masculinity.
So obviously you should skip any subjects that could bring down the good vibe. Conversation no-no�s include ex-partners, political affairs, anything related to bodily functions (not even as a joke), violence and any other negative stuff that will turn her off.
And if you really want to seal the deal, you can talk about romantic stuff without coming off as cheesy. What I like to do is introduce mushy topics in a fairly indirect way.
(This also lays down the foundations for the latter stages of courtship, but anyway�)
For instance, try bringing up a romantic situation you heard about from a friend and tell your date what YOU think about it. After that, get her talking about the subject by asking for HER take on it.
Let me give you an example: �You know, I think it�s weird in a cool way when two people just connect and sort of fall into their own little world. I mean, one minute you�re baring your souls to each other and then it�s back to reality the next. The transition can be jarring but exciting at the same time. Have you ever felt like that?�
Of course, there are a hundred other questions you can pattern in the same way. Get creative and think of people, places and situations which will help you think of something to ask her during your date.
Good conversationalists make it a point to look into the other person�s eyes while she�s talking. It�s OK for your gaze to be elsewhere as you�re talking (while occasionally looking at her), but look into her eyes with a reassuring smile when it�s her turn to speak.
Trust me - your undivided attention is one of the most powerful tools to win her over. While you�re at it, don�t be stingy with the compliments. LISTEN to what she has to say so you can appropriately praise something important to her.
When she says, �I�m more comfortable doing freelance work than being in an office all day�, you say �That�s cool, I�ve always admired women who can earn their keep on their OWN terms rather than marching to someone else�s beat.�
While the rest of the guys out there are giving compliments about her looks, throw her off by praising something OTHER than her body. She�ll appreciate you for it.
Remember, the general goal is to establish yourself as the guy that�ll make her think �Hmm, this guy seems interesting � let�s see what happens��
You don�t have to make her fall in love with you on the spot�you just have to lead her in that direction.
The things that we�ve talked about so far are meant to arouse this curiosity � not to mention keep you FAR away from the �friends zone�.
Lastly, you�ll want to keep the time on your first date to a maximum of one hour so you can wrap things up while the getting�s good. It may sound counter-intuitive to leave when the chemistry is at its peak, but think about the benefits of ending on a good note.
Try telling her, �Oh man, I d really like to stay longer, but I have an appointment to go to�maybe we can get together next week?� When you introduce a time constraint, she�ll savor your moments together and will actually be SAD to see you go.
How do you think that will affect your chances for a SECOND date?
When you call up your girl to ask her out, make sure you give her the impression that you have somewhere else to go after the date. This way, she won�t have to worry about things dragging on in case (heaven forbid) that the date doesn�t go too well.
(No pressure, remember?)
Just to remind you of course, that you have every intention to have a good time with her. You�re only putting a time limit on the date so she�ll WANT to see you after it ends.
I�ve advised a lot of my friends to go with this general dating plan and they�ve yielded very favorable results.
(The occasional flaky chick notwithstanding, of course � hey, life�s funny like that sometimes!)
Speaking of great results, remember that this is only the opening act. Once you�ve had a good feel of her personality and the things that she likes, you�ll be able to zero in on what you can do the next time around.
Perhaps she needs a couple more of these quick coffee shop dates to really set the stage, but eventually you�ll have enough leverage to take things more seriously.
Once you�re ready to go to the next level, up the ante by putting together a bunch of activities you can do in the span of a day (as opposed to just an hour). Your previous dates should give you the �intelligence� to help figure out what things you can do on your next �assignment�.
If she�s into everything art-related, then summon your inner James Bond and take her to the local museum or to a bookstore if a new title is coming out. Then you could go to the park to grab a quick bite (better if you know about her favorite snack beforehand!).
Whatever you have planned, your follow-up dates should allow you both plenty of time to chill out and bond throughout the day. If you plan things correctly, you�d be surprised how long even ONE day will seem to her.
Create enough noteworthy experiences in her mind, and she�ll carry those memories for a long time to come.
Having said that, do your homework and have a backup plan ready to prevent any unforeseen factors from raining on your parade. And if your date doesn�t exactly go according to plan, don�t flip out.
It�s not cool to blow a gasket in front of her because she�ll be looking to you for direction and initiative. If you blow it off like it�s no big deal, then she�ll follow suit.
Well, that about does it for now. By the way, you should take a look at this little gem of knowledge before you go:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
This book is your direct link to the masters of seduction because they�ve put down the techniques and attitudes they�ve used in their own romantic pursuits.
As a bunch of wise men once said, �You wanted the best, you�ve got the best!�
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
This article comes to you courtesy of www.meetyoursweet.com
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of seduction self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet�s �Fireworks With Females,� your first stop for gal-getting strategies that really deliver.
If you want quality women, and want more than just scripted lines and one night stands, if you want the confidence and winning attitude to take your skills and success to the next level, let Slade Shaw and the team challenge your beliefs about what women really want and how to be the guy that gets her attention, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real men!
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
These often overlooked avenues are GREAT ways to smoothly transition from acquaintances to friends�
�and hopefully, into potential lovers.
The key to doing that is by going on a DATE with her. There are two basic ways to gradually lead her into this, namely: hanging out with her along with your mutual friend(s) AND continuing the interaction online through networking sites like Facebook.
However, it�s cool if you�re the kind of guy who likes to do cold approaches on total strangers in everyday places like bookstores, record bars, convenience stores and so on. After all, there�s more than one way to skin a cat.
Regardless of your chosen method of meeting women however, you obviously need to go out with her on an exclusive date if a relationship is your goal.
Personally, the dating method I recommend is a gradual, multi-tiered approach. What I mean by that is I take things one step at a time, continuously gauging and ESCALATING a woman�s interest little by little.
You see, a successful pursuit is the result of mastering the COURTSHIP PROCESS whose length depends upon a given woman�s disposition. If you plan your dates around this basic context, it won�t be long until she�ll be chasing after you like a lovesick puppy.
So let me break down the dating structure I�ve successfully adapted over the years. Initially, you�ll need to know her better in a one-on-one environment before taking things up a notch.
That�s why your first date with her should be a RELAXED social affair. There shouldn�t be any pressure at all at this point (although a little sexual tension is fine and even expected), so keep things light and FUN.
You know the typical scene in a TV show where the leading lady is flustered over what to wear on the first date? Don�t put your woman in this predicament.
This clich� has been done to death and you should be SHAKING THINGS UP with her. If you want to break the mold, you�re going to have to skip the typical romantic date routine and be INNOVATIVE.
How do you do this? Simple � instead of asking your lady out to an expensive restaurant, meet up with her at a casual public place like a coffee shop or a juice bar.
This is an excellent way to minimize the natural jitters that come with a first date (for BOTH you and her). While you�ll NEVER really get rid of all those fluttering butterflies, you�ll have an easier time focusing on HER and have a good time all around.
After all, the point of going on a date is to ENJOY her company, and not treat it like it was a job interview where you have to prove yourself to her. Don�t fall into that NEEDY mindset.
Furthermore, innovative first dates like these happen to be VERY budget-friendly. NOT that I�m saying you should be a cheapskate, but splurging right at the beginning screws up the courtship process.
This isn�t about doing the �pulling-out-all-the-stops� kind of stuff, but rather doing them at the RIGHT TIME. In her mind, these things will have way more impact and value if they�re given as a reward rather than something that doesn�t need to be earned.
Besides, romance has a much easier time to blossom when you�re not projecting any expectations.
(I�m not saying though that it�s not possible for the sparks to fly so early on�)
In case that it does, your lucky date will feel like it�s the most NATURAL thing in the world because she wasn�t FORCED into it.
Bottom line: avoid making a huge production out of the first date.
With that said however, going on a low-pressure date doesn�t mean you shouldn�t plant subtle hints of romance in her head.
But we�ll save that for later � right now, let�s talk about setting up the first date.
I�m assuming at this point that you�ve already made initial contact with her (either through your friends or on your own) and have obtained that ever-important phone number.
Generally, it�s advisable to call her back within a maximum of one week after that first encounter. Wait any longer and the rapport that you have may FADE away into nothingness.
If at all possible, call her at HOME so she�ll have a better chance of writing down the details. Emails as well as voice and text messages are at risk of being accidentally deleted or overlooked. Even calling her mobile isn�t a good idea because she may be distracted or won�t have anything to write with.
If there�s one thing you should know about inviting her, it�s the importance of having a DEFINITE PLAN with specific details (i.e. the time and place where YOU want to meet). The worst way to do this is blurt something out like, �Hey there, remember me? Why don�t we grab a bite at any place you want�any time is good for me too��
Remember, women appreciate a guy with a firm masculine essence. If you�re gonna call her up and sound unsure, it�s a HUGE giveaway that you�re not really in control of your life.
Is she prejudging you? You better believe it. Don�t tell me that your own brain isn�t running in the background when you�re checking out potential women to approach.
That�s just the female mind at work, brother � sometimes, it�s better to go with the flow than against it.
As much as you can, suggest a place you�re already familiar with so you have the homecourt advantage. Like I said, you might feel antsy anyway, so you might as well pick a comfortable spot.
It�s only natural for anyone to have a sense of uneasiness when they�re on unfamiliar ground. Keep this at bay by inviting your girl somewhere you�d feel at home.
Keep in mind that your time and venue should be at a place convenient not just for her, but for you as well. It�s ok to be reasonably flexible about setting up a date - but not to the point where you have to travel half across town or cancel other important appointments just for her.
Once you�ve agreed to a date, it�s time to run you through the basics. As mentioned earlier, you�re going to have to get a head start on creating romantic thoughts swirling in that brain of hers.
The cool thing about the �casual� first date is that you can totally accomplish the said objective under the radar. In such a relaxed context, she won�t know what hit her!
So how do you create this effect? Well, it�s done through the little things.
When I say �little�, I�m referring to fleeting little indications that you�re into her. You don�t want to push her away by telegraphing TOO much interest early on, so you can do it in smaller, bite-sized chunks of subtlety.
When it comes to conversation, a woman will want to experience positive feelings while she�s talking to you. Making her feel good during a conversation is essential to generating major attraction.
The feminine essence is all about emotions; if you can trigger the right ones within your date, she�ll pin them on you. Play your cards right, and she�ll inexplicably be feeling very good the next time she thinks about you.
In this case, being guilty by association is a GOOD thing.
Focus on upbeat topics that serve a springboard for other positive things to talk about later on. For instance, try sharing interesting anecdotes.
A good way of doing this is by telling her about the time you got into a funny situation but came out of it OK. The point here is to give her an idea that you�re a relatively optimistic guy who can keep his cool and take the bad stuff in stride.
Her subconscious needs some assurance that you can handle life�s curveballs because you�ll eventually have to protect her from the same stuff later on. It�s simply her feminine side seeking the rock-steadiness of your masculinity.
So obviously you should skip any subjects that could bring down the good vibe. Conversation no-no�s include ex-partners, political affairs, anything related to bodily functions (not even as a joke), violence and any other negative stuff that will turn her off.
And if you really want to seal the deal, you can talk about romantic stuff without coming off as cheesy. What I like to do is introduce mushy topics in a fairly indirect way.
(This also lays down the foundations for the latter stages of courtship, but anyway�)
For instance, try bringing up a romantic situation you heard about from a friend and tell your date what YOU think about it. After that, get her talking about the subject by asking for HER take on it.
Let me give you an example: �You know, I think it�s weird in a cool way when two people just connect and sort of fall into their own little world. I mean, one minute you�re baring your souls to each other and then it�s back to reality the next. The transition can be jarring but exciting at the same time. Have you ever felt like that?�
Of course, there are a hundred other questions you can pattern in the same way. Get creative and think of people, places and situations which will help you think of something to ask her during your date.
Good conversationalists make it a point to look into the other person�s eyes while she�s talking. It�s OK for your gaze to be elsewhere as you�re talking (while occasionally looking at her), but look into her eyes with a reassuring smile when it�s her turn to speak.
Trust me - your undivided attention is one of the most powerful tools to win her over. While you�re at it, don�t be stingy with the compliments. LISTEN to what she has to say so you can appropriately praise something important to her.
When she says, �I�m more comfortable doing freelance work than being in an office all day�, you say �That�s cool, I�ve always admired women who can earn their keep on their OWN terms rather than marching to someone else�s beat.�
While the rest of the guys out there are giving compliments about her looks, throw her off by praising something OTHER than her body. She�ll appreciate you for it.
Remember, the general goal is to establish yourself as the guy that�ll make her think �Hmm, this guy seems interesting � let�s see what happens��
You don�t have to make her fall in love with you on the spot�you just have to lead her in that direction.
The things that we�ve talked about so far are meant to arouse this curiosity � not to mention keep you FAR away from the �friends zone�.
Lastly, you�ll want to keep the time on your first date to a maximum of one hour so you can wrap things up while the getting�s good. It may sound counter-intuitive to leave when the chemistry is at its peak, but think about the benefits of ending on a good note.
Try telling her, �Oh man, I d really like to stay longer, but I have an appointment to go to�maybe we can get together next week?� When you introduce a time constraint, she�ll savor your moments together and will actually be SAD to see you go.
How do you think that will affect your chances for a SECOND date?
When you call up your girl to ask her out, make sure you give her the impression that you have somewhere else to go after the date. This way, she won�t have to worry about things dragging on in case (heaven forbid) that the date doesn�t go too well.
(No pressure, remember?)
Just to remind you of course, that you have every intention to have a good time with her. You�re only putting a time limit on the date so she�ll WANT to see you after it ends.
I�ve advised a lot of my friends to go with this general dating plan and they�ve yielded very favorable results.
(The occasional flaky chick notwithstanding, of course � hey, life�s funny like that sometimes!)
Speaking of great results, remember that this is only the opening act. Once you�ve had a good feel of her personality and the things that she likes, you�ll be able to zero in on what you can do the next time around.
Perhaps she needs a couple more of these quick coffee shop dates to really set the stage, but eventually you�ll have enough leverage to take things more seriously.
Once you�re ready to go to the next level, up the ante by putting together a bunch of activities you can do in the span of a day (as opposed to just an hour). Your previous dates should give you the �intelligence� to help figure out what things you can do on your next �assignment�.
If she�s into everything art-related, then summon your inner James Bond and take her to the local museum or to a bookstore if a new title is coming out. Then you could go to the park to grab a quick bite (better if you know about her favorite snack beforehand!).
Whatever you have planned, your follow-up dates should allow you both plenty of time to chill out and bond throughout the day. If you plan things correctly, you�d be surprised how long even ONE day will seem to her.
Create enough noteworthy experiences in her mind, and she�ll carry those memories for a long time to come.
Having said that, do your homework and have a backup plan ready to prevent any unforeseen factors from raining on your parade. And if your date doesn�t exactly go according to plan, don�t flip out.
It�s not cool to blow a gasket in front of her because she�ll be looking to you for direction and initiative. If you blow it off like it�s no big deal, then she�ll follow suit.
Well, that about does it for now. By the way, you should take a look at this little gem of knowledge before you go:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
This book is your direct link to the masters of seduction because they�ve put down the techniques and attitudes they�ve used in their own romantic pursuits.
As a bunch of wise men once said, �You wanted the best, you�ve got the best!�
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
This article comes to you courtesy of www.meetyoursweet.com
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of seduction self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet�s �Fireworks With Females,� your first stop for gal-getting strategies that really deliver.
If you want quality women, and want more than just scripted lines and one night stands, if you want the confidence and winning attitude to take your skills and success to the next level, let Slade Shaw and the team challenge your beliefs about what women really want and how to be the guy that gets her attention, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real men!
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
How To Meet Women Through Social Networks And Friends
Despite what your grumpy, pessimistic inner critic is telling you, you�re already a GREAT guy to begin with. But can the ladies SEE that?
This is where a lot of guys need help with. All things considered however, you�re still in a good situation because it�s just a matter of UNLEASHING something that�s already there.
Want to know how? Check this out�
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
Let me ask you something: does meeting quality women on a REGULAR basis feel like looking for the proverbial needle in the haystack?
If you�re like most guys, you�ve probably gone down the beaten path known as �Hitting The Clubs�. You know what I�m talking about: you and your buddies head to the nearest bar, have a few drinks, and wait for a group of eligible ladies to come your way.
Some seduction experts use these venues as their so-called �training grounds� to get their pupils� feet wet. The eager hopefuls proceed to test their newly-learned skills on the unsuspecting female population.
Although this seems like a sound plan, the women at these places are already EXPECTING to be approached during the night (especially the hot ones!). Then, there�s the possibility of running into a girl who happens to take pleasure in shooting down guys� ego.
If you�re lucky enough to meet one of these she-devils in disguise, well�don�t say I didn�t warn you.
This is probably why the most obvious choice ISN�T always the most effective one.
I mean sure, approaching several strangers in one night will help you get over your fear of interaction. However, this is NOT the only way to meet women and you shouldn�t limit your options to this familiar route.
I want you to step back and look at the big picture. LIFE in general is just BUZZING with opportunity.
There�s more than one path to success, so you should get used to changing your sails if the prevalent winds aren�t in your favor.
It may make you feel uncomfortable to try a different, unfamiliar approach to getting what you want, but this is a GOOD thing. Being uncomfortable means you�re leaving your safe, secure little zone of comfort and doing something NEW.
This means you�re evolving as a person, gathering valuable experience and LEARNING something new in the process.
So repeat after me: DISCOMFORT IS GOOD. THIS is the mindset you should have when getting into dating.
Maybe you�re thinking ALL the hot women hang out in the same places. Well, that�s a big negative.
It may come as a big surprise to you that NOT all gorgeous and brainy women (read: the ones you�re after) are packed like lemmings in bars or nightclubs.
Wouldn�t it be nice to meet a nice girl WITHOUT the pre-packaged pressure that comes with the usual places?
Think about it: there�s already a heavy context involved with walking up to a woman in a bar. Like it or not, but a lot of movies and TV shows have caused us to permanently associate these places with picking up women.
I mean, they�ve practically ETCHED that notion into our collective consciousness�chances are you�re already broadcasting TOO much interest before you�ve even opened your mouth.
Thus, I�d like to talk about the backdoor to the world of seduction. Luckily, these alternate paths to meeting women aren�t some big secret. They�re in plain sight and all you need is to BROADEN your perspective on things.
For instance, your FRIENDS are an often overlooked avenue to dating bliss. I�m not talking about rounding up the boys for a night out on the town, but rather your overall SOCIAL CIRCLE.
This includes, colleagues, high school/college buddies, co-workers and so on. Just think that you�re smack-dab in the middle of a very LARGE web of people who in turn have �webs� of their own.
This is a vast field of opportunities that�s just waiting to be tapped. I�d bet you that a sizeable chunk of these people happen to be (or know) women who fit your preferences.
This is where the expression �all the good women are taken� fizzles into the sweet reality of ABUNDANCE. In other words, quality women are hardly in short supply my friend.
There are a lot of advantages to be had from taking this route. First of all, your friends can provide the social proofing which you would have to build on you own in a different setting.
Having a friend to introduce you to a promising candidate is a great way to be pre-qualified without having to open your mouth! Don�t get me wrong, you�ll have to carry a good conversation on your own after the introduction, but at least it won�t look like you�re bragging when your friend is telling her good things about you.
Also, being in the company of friends greatly cuts down on the awkwardness factor. Imagine being in a relaxed setting where your end goal is to have a good time � and not getting her phone number right there and then.
Think of it as a �pre-first date�; you get to see how she�s like in social situations, and it�s much easier to ask her out later on since you have the chance to build some rapport first. Plus, you don�t have to worry about keeping one person entertained the whole time either.
Most of all, you�ll get to gauge the level of interest between you two � helpful information before taking things up a notch. Sounds like a sweet deal, right?
You get to have a good time while investing in your love life at the same time. If it doesn�t work out, you�ll still have fun so there�s NO PRESSURE to succeed right here and now.
To get into this kind of situation, you can tell your friends outright that you�re on the market. Ask them to bring along any single friends of their own but it doesn�t have to be a blind date.
In fact, avoid blind dates altogether because it defeats the very purpose of going out with friends (the lack of awkwardness and pressure). Instead, just ask your pals to bring along anyone to your group outings.
They may even invite you to meet someone who they think might be a good match for you (provided that it�s NOT an actual date). There�s no shame to be found in asking for their help; chances are they�ll be more than happy to set you up.
To keep things light and fun, remind your friends not to tell those ladies that you�re on the lookout. All you need is the introduction so you can take it from there.
Then, there�s the added dimension of extending your circle of friends into the virtual world. I don�t have to tell you that we�re living in the age of the Internet because that�s the very reason why you�re reading this in the first place.
Therefore, there�s a huge chance you and your friends (and their cute friends) are probably part of an online social network such as the insanely popular Facebook. Sites like these are an excellent place to complement your dating pursuits.
If you�re already on one of these sites, check to see if your existing profile needs to be polished. This is a key component of your online efforts because your profile acts as a sort of social resume which should complement the most attractive aspects of your personality.
As a general rule of thumb, your profile should have just enough information to give everyone a hint of what a great guy you are, but not too long that it becomes boring to read.
In the description, avoid putting anything cheesy or pretentiously highfalutin. It�s especially bad to make any direct or indirect references to sex because that just screams �DESPERATE�.
The vibe a reader should get is that you�re a cool guy who does and likes a lot of things. So include information about your hobbies, interests, passions or anything else that makes you a balanced and interesting kinda guy.
As for the relationship status, go with �single and looking to date� or any similar option to that effect. You obviously don�t want to keep any prospects away by choosing a status that casts doubt on your availability, such as �it�s complicated�.
Of course, any self-respecting social networking site will allow its users to post photographic evidence of their hip and happening adventures in the offline world.
Whether it�s mountain biking in the great outdoors or having an awesome time with your friends, your pictures should feature you in various upbeat social situations for evident reasons. Think along the lines of parties, concerts, comic book conventions and any other events which look interesting.
Now that you�ve sorted out the groundwork, it�s time to put yourself out there. Once your friends introduce you to someone that you find attractive, casually ask her if she�s on one of those sites.
I�m betting your mutual friend has Ms. Attractive on his/her contact list anyway, so this shouldn�t be a problem. After you�ve added her up, wait for a couple of weeks before you start interacting with her online.
For starters, make a brief but funny comment on one of her pictures or status messages. While this is subjective ground to walk on, a lot of people will have the same idea of what�s annoying, creepy or stalker-ish (which is what you�ll want to AVOID here). Remember, it needs to be light-hearted and casual at the beginning.
After some time, you should be able to create enough comfort to ask her out on another group outing. Take the initiative to invite her to an event that you and your mutual friends are going to.
For example, if there�s a really cool band playing in the area you can tell her that she should come along because it�s going to be a lot of fun. Try something like, �Hey there, we�re going to watch _________ this weekend and I thought you might want to check them out as well.�
Eventually, you�ll be able to casually establish just the right amount of familiarity with your friend�s friend. If you�re feeling bold enough, take the chance of asking her out on an exclusive date.
Now, don�t get any images of candlelit dinners or sappy stuff like that just YET. You don�t want to make the transition too jarring for her, right? Start off with something as simple as asking her to come with you to check out some new releases at the record store or drop by the upcoming art exhibit at the museum.
As casual as these dates may seem, it gives you an edge because again, she�s not pressured into a romantic scenario. At the same time, it gives you plenty of time to have shared experiences with her.
Who knows, one thing may lead to another in due time. If things start to develop between you two, it transpired in a totally relaxed setting.
As far as the feminine perspective is concerned, this is PERFECT. Who is she to deny fate if the lucky girl ends up being attracted you along the way?
Besides, she�d be blind not to SENSE your lingering interest behind the invitation. The cool thing about it is that you�re not telegraphing your interest too LOUDLY or HASTILY.
If she does agree to go out with you, she�s either on the same page as you are�or is WILLING to see what happens at the very least.
Otherwise, be cool about it and move on with your life. Whatever happens, you�ll still end up with another friend in your life. Take comfort in the fact that your flourishing social network is chock-full other people you can meet.
THIS knowledge will keep you from pressuring yourself � OR her.
Just remember that social networking sites are NOT a replacement for a healthy social life. They�re only a means to meet great women in PERSON, and not merely exchanging emoticon chats or �pokes� with them.
It may take a while for you to develop your network of online AND offline friends, but you just need to invest enough time and effort to make it WORK for YOU. Once you�ve reached a level where you�re always going out and meeting new people, all you need to do is MAINTAIN it.
The bottom line is that it�s NOT HARD at all to get your foot in the door. You just have to open your mind to the possibility that ending up with your dream girl can happen in the most casual or everyday kind of circumstances.
One last thing before I let you go - if you want to know more about projecting an alpha-male personality to your friends (and incidentally, THEIR beautiful friends), and taking your winning confidence to the next level of attraction, you should definitely take a look at �Fireworks With Females�:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
This course is packed with a CRAZY amount of information designed to BLAST though the barriers keeping you from greater success with women. I suggest you check it out TODAY � it�ll go well with your social circle-expanding efforts!
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This article comes to you courtesy of www.meetyoursweet.com
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of seduction self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet�s �Fireworks With Females,� your first stop for gal-getting strategies that really deliver.
If you want quality women, and want more than just scripted lines and one night stands, if you want the confidence and winning attitude to take your skills and success to the next level, let Slade Shaw and the team challenge your beliefs about what women really want and how to be the guy that gets her attention, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real men!
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This is where a lot of guys need help with. All things considered however, you�re still in a good situation because it�s just a matter of UNLEASHING something that�s already there.
Want to know how? Check this out�
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
Let me ask you something: does meeting quality women on a REGULAR basis feel like looking for the proverbial needle in the haystack?
If you�re like most guys, you�ve probably gone down the beaten path known as �Hitting The Clubs�. You know what I�m talking about: you and your buddies head to the nearest bar, have a few drinks, and wait for a group of eligible ladies to come your way.
Some seduction experts use these venues as their so-called �training grounds� to get their pupils� feet wet. The eager hopefuls proceed to test their newly-learned skills on the unsuspecting female population.
Although this seems like a sound plan, the women at these places are already EXPECTING to be approached during the night (especially the hot ones!). Then, there�s the possibility of running into a girl who happens to take pleasure in shooting down guys� ego.
If you�re lucky enough to meet one of these she-devils in disguise, well�don�t say I didn�t warn you.
This is probably why the most obvious choice ISN�T always the most effective one.
I mean sure, approaching several strangers in one night will help you get over your fear of interaction. However, this is NOT the only way to meet women and you shouldn�t limit your options to this familiar route.
I want you to step back and look at the big picture. LIFE in general is just BUZZING with opportunity.
There�s more than one path to success, so you should get used to changing your sails if the prevalent winds aren�t in your favor.
It may make you feel uncomfortable to try a different, unfamiliar approach to getting what you want, but this is a GOOD thing. Being uncomfortable means you�re leaving your safe, secure little zone of comfort and doing something NEW.
This means you�re evolving as a person, gathering valuable experience and LEARNING something new in the process.
So repeat after me: DISCOMFORT IS GOOD. THIS is the mindset you should have when getting into dating.
Maybe you�re thinking ALL the hot women hang out in the same places. Well, that�s a big negative.
It may come as a big surprise to you that NOT all gorgeous and brainy women (read: the ones you�re after) are packed like lemmings in bars or nightclubs.
Wouldn�t it be nice to meet a nice girl WITHOUT the pre-packaged pressure that comes with the usual places?
Think about it: there�s already a heavy context involved with walking up to a woman in a bar. Like it or not, but a lot of movies and TV shows have caused us to permanently associate these places with picking up women.
I mean, they�ve practically ETCHED that notion into our collective consciousness�chances are you�re already broadcasting TOO much interest before you�ve even opened your mouth.
Thus, I�d like to talk about the backdoor to the world of seduction. Luckily, these alternate paths to meeting women aren�t some big secret. They�re in plain sight and all you need is to BROADEN your perspective on things.
For instance, your FRIENDS are an often overlooked avenue to dating bliss. I�m not talking about rounding up the boys for a night out on the town, but rather your overall SOCIAL CIRCLE.
This includes, colleagues, high school/college buddies, co-workers and so on. Just think that you�re smack-dab in the middle of a very LARGE web of people who in turn have �webs� of their own.
This is a vast field of opportunities that�s just waiting to be tapped. I�d bet you that a sizeable chunk of these people happen to be (or know) women who fit your preferences.
This is where the expression �all the good women are taken� fizzles into the sweet reality of ABUNDANCE. In other words, quality women are hardly in short supply my friend.
There are a lot of advantages to be had from taking this route. First of all, your friends can provide the social proofing which you would have to build on you own in a different setting.
Having a friend to introduce you to a promising candidate is a great way to be pre-qualified without having to open your mouth! Don�t get me wrong, you�ll have to carry a good conversation on your own after the introduction, but at least it won�t look like you�re bragging when your friend is telling her good things about you.
Also, being in the company of friends greatly cuts down on the awkwardness factor. Imagine being in a relaxed setting where your end goal is to have a good time � and not getting her phone number right there and then.
Think of it as a �pre-first date�; you get to see how she�s like in social situations, and it�s much easier to ask her out later on since you have the chance to build some rapport first. Plus, you don�t have to worry about keeping one person entertained the whole time either.
Most of all, you�ll get to gauge the level of interest between you two � helpful information before taking things up a notch. Sounds like a sweet deal, right?
You get to have a good time while investing in your love life at the same time. If it doesn�t work out, you�ll still have fun so there�s NO PRESSURE to succeed right here and now.
To get into this kind of situation, you can tell your friends outright that you�re on the market. Ask them to bring along any single friends of their own but it doesn�t have to be a blind date.
In fact, avoid blind dates altogether because it defeats the very purpose of going out with friends (the lack of awkwardness and pressure). Instead, just ask your pals to bring along anyone to your group outings.
They may even invite you to meet someone who they think might be a good match for you (provided that it�s NOT an actual date). There�s no shame to be found in asking for their help; chances are they�ll be more than happy to set you up.
To keep things light and fun, remind your friends not to tell those ladies that you�re on the lookout. All you need is the introduction so you can take it from there.
Then, there�s the added dimension of extending your circle of friends into the virtual world. I don�t have to tell you that we�re living in the age of the Internet because that�s the very reason why you�re reading this in the first place.
Therefore, there�s a huge chance you and your friends (and their cute friends) are probably part of an online social network such as the insanely popular Facebook. Sites like these are an excellent place to complement your dating pursuits.
If you�re already on one of these sites, check to see if your existing profile needs to be polished. This is a key component of your online efforts because your profile acts as a sort of social resume which should complement the most attractive aspects of your personality.
As a general rule of thumb, your profile should have just enough information to give everyone a hint of what a great guy you are, but not too long that it becomes boring to read.
In the description, avoid putting anything cheesy or pretentiously highfalutin. It�s especially bad to make any direct or indirect references to sex because that just screams �DESPERATE�.
The vibe a reader should get is that you�re a cool guy who does and likes a lot of things. So include information about your hobbies, interests, passions or anything else that makes you a balanced and interesting kinda guy.
As for the relationship status, go with �single and looking to date� or any similar option to that effect. You obviously don�t want to keep any prospects away by choosing a status that casts doubt on your availability, such as �it�s complicated�.
Of course, any self-respecting social networking site will allow its users to post photographic evidence of their hip and happening adventures in the offline world.
Whether it�s mountain biking in the great outdoors or having an awesome time with your friends, your pictures should feature you in various upbeat social situations for evident reasons. Think along the lines of parties, concerts, comic book conventions and any other events which look interesting.
Now that you�ve sorted out the groundwork, it�s time to put yourself out there. Once your friends introduce you to someone that you find attractive, casually ask her if she�s on one of those sites.
I�m betting your mutual friend has Ms. Attractive on his/her contact list anyway, so this shouldn�t be a problem. After you�ve added her up, wait for a couple of weeks before you start interacting with her online.
For starters, make a brief but funny comment on one of her pictures or status messages. While this is subjective ground to walk on, a lot of people will have the same idea of what�s annoying, creepy or stalker-ish (which is what you�ll want to AVOID here). Remember, it needs to be light-hearted and casual at the beginning.
After some time, you should be able to create enough comfort to ask her out on another group outing. Take the initiative to invite her to an event that you and your mutual friends are going to.
For example, if there�s a really cool band playing in the area you can tell her that she should come along because it�s going to be a lot of fun. Try something like, �Hey there, we�re going to watch _________ this weekend and I thought you might want to check them out as well.�
Eventually, you�ll be able to casually establish just the right amount of familiarity with your friend�s friend. If you�re feeling bold enough, take the chance of asking her out on an exclusive date.
Now, don�t get any images of candlelit dinners or sappy stuff like that just YET. You don�t want to make the transition too jarring for her, right? Start off with something as simple as asking her to come with you to check out some new releases at the record store or drop by the upcoming art exhibit at the museum.
As casual as these dates may seem, it gives you an edge because again, she�s not pressured into a romantic scenario. At the same time, it gives you plenty of time to have shared experiences with her.
Who knows, one thing may lead to another in due time. If things start to develop between you two, it transpired in a totally relaxed setting.
As far as the feminine perspective is concerned, this is PERFECT. Who is she to deny fate if the lucky girl ends up being attracted you along the way?
Besides, she�d be blind not to SENSE your lingering interest behind the invitation. The cool thing about it is that you�re not telegraphing your interest too LOUDLY or HASTILY.
If she does agree to go out with you, she�s either on the same page as you are�or is WILLING to see what happens at the very least.
Otherwise, be cool about it and move on with your life. Whatever happens, you�ll still end up with another friend in your life. Take comfort in the fact that your flourishing social network is chock-full other people you can meet.
THIS knowledge will keep you from pressuring yourself � OR her.
Just remember that social networking sites are NOT a replacement for a healthy social life. They�re only a means to meet great women in PERSON, and not merely exchanging emoticon chats or �pokes� with them.
It may take a while for you to develop your network of online AND offline friends, but you just need to invest enough time and effort to make it WORK for YOU. Once you�ve reached a level where you�re always going out and meeting new people, all you need to do is MAINTAIN it.
The bottom line is that it�s NOT HARD at all to get your foot in the door. You just have to open your mind to the possibility that ending up with your dream girl can happen in the most casual or everyday kind of circumstances.
One last thing before I let you go - if you want to know more about projecting an alpha-male personality to your friends (and incidentally, THEIR beautiful friends), and taking your winning confidence to the next level of attraction, you should definitely take a look at �Fireworks With Females�:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
This course is packed with a CRAZY amount of information designed to BLAST though the barriers keeping you from greater success with women. I suggest you check it out TODAY � it�ll go well with your social circle-expanding efforts!
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
This article comes to you courtesy of www.meetyoursweet.com
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of seduction self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet�s �Fireworks With Females,� your first stop for gal-getting strategies that really deliver.
If you want quality women, and want more than just scripted lines and one night stands, if you want the confidence and winning attitude to take your skills and success to the next level, let Slade Shaw and the team challenge your beliefs about what women really want and how to be the guy that gets her attention, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real men!
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How Ditching The Rules Can Get You More Dates
Are you lost in a sea of information, grasping to find the real deal on how to attract a woman FOR KEEPS? Does it seem like there�s a new book coming out every week, leaving you deeper in confusion about which advice to take??
Worse, you have friends and colleagues giving you their own unique take on what works and what doesn�t work in a relationship. The World Wide Web is filled to the brim with all sorts of conflicting information, and it�s hard to make sense of it all.
If all of the things those authors have tried in their own lives have worked for each and every one of them�why do their books cancel each other out??
There can be only so many versions of the truth out there; it can drive an average guy NUTS.
Well, this is where your INNER VOICE comes into play. It�s really up to you to decide which piece of advice would work BEST with your unique circumstances.
And there are a lot of useful books out there that offer SENSIBLE, REAL-LIFE guidance on not only having an awesome love life, but a great lifestyle in general.
If you want such a guide to help you make sense of things, you should check out the definitive guide for guys:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen/
You need to pick this up if you want to be at your best, most authentic self that the ladies will fall for.
Yet, there are a lot of so-called dating experts who are - honestly speaking � pouring POISON into the collective ear of the male population. I mean, there�s just a TON of B.S. floating around on the web as well as in print media.
The stuff I�m talking about here is RULES. Strict, rigid rules that will only curse you to singlehood �til kingdom come.
I have to tell ya, a lot of my own friends have been badly burned from following a bunch of arbitrary �dating laws�.
What you might not know is that these rules only serve to make clueless guys even MORE narrow-minded than they were before.
I get where these rules are coming from though. With dating, so much can go wrong; believing that certain regulations within a clearly-defined system could somehow bring order to a chaotic environment.
And from a theoretical standpoint, following rules will safely keep you out of harm�s way (such as being rejected, getting dumped, etc.).
However, real life doesn�t work like that.
Personally, I�m more of a �go with the flow� kinda guy. I like to size up a situation and respond to it accordingly without a bunch of rules dictating my every move like I was some machine.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but you can�t put the world of relationships into neat little compartments as if it was a science experiment. Some people look at social dynamics in the same way as a computer program driven by inflexible rules (read: NOT true), and so they repeatedly run into DISASTER.
The thing is�a healthy, stable relationship (long-term or otherwise) isn�t brought about by religiously adhering to these �laws� like your life depended on it.
Adaptability, creativity and RESPECT towards women will give a set of dumb rules an ass-whooping any day.
Most of these �unbreakable� rules revolve around game-playing, manipulation and utter disregard for a woman�s sensibilities. Let�s take a look:
- The best way to bring a woman down a couple of notches is to take a few pot shots at her ego. The more beautiful she is, the more aggressive your disguised insults need to be.
- Before you get involved with someone new, you first need to give yourself an allowance of X number of years or months after breaking up with your previous girlfriend.
- After a date, wait X number of days before calling her back.
- You�ll need to approach a woman within X number of seconds of spotting her.
What a doozy huh? If I didn�t know better, I�d be following these rules like crazy before I ultimately run my love life to the ground.
The people who came up with these rules are probably projecting their own experiences. Therefore, it�s basically made to serve their OWN needs rather than every guy out there.
Everybody�s situation is different, so you can�t expect to use these rules as a one-size-fits-all kind of glove for the ENTIRE dating scene. These laws won�t work for every single guy in the known universe, so it�s really pointless to follow them to the letter.
It�s more important to have a PERSONALITY that�s suited to the dating world. The truth is that you can�t substitute your real self with these rules.
A personality defined by self-confidence and non-neediness will be your best guide to making the RIGHT DECISION.
Rules don�t really capture the spirit of healthy dating � they MIGHT work for you this one time, but it doesn�t follow that your precious rules will get you consistent results!
On the flip side, I can honestly appreciate the IDEA behind these rules, which is to prevent you from getting burned. Yet, narrowing general guidelines down to extremely specific tenets simply won�t work for all situations.
For instance, pinning down the exact number of days before calling ANY woman you date is just plain silly. I mean yeah, you don�t want to look super EAGER or NEEDY, but don�t you think the level of attraction will VARY from girl to girl?
Maybe a certain date of yours seemed really interested to see you again, while another woman wasn�t all that receptive to your advances. That simply means you can�t expect to apply one rule to two different people.
Since I�m feeling like a nice guy today, I�ll give you some quick pointers on the ideas BASED on the rules we talked about:
- Don�t act like a woman�s approval is your sole reason for living. Seeking validation from someone other than yourself is NOT attractive.
- If she catches on that you�re so DESPARATE to be in a relationship, you might end up driving her away.
- Don�t make a big deal out of approaching a woman. You�ll be severely wrecking your chances if you hover around her, acting all jumpy and jittery.
Nonetheless, save the algorithms for other things, like rocket science. You can�t possibly reduce social dynamics down to a mathematical equation.
No computer can intelligently decipher the complex patterns of human behavior � your BRAIN is the only tool that can do that.
Sure, rules may help you out when you�re new to the dating scene, but in the long run you�ll need to cut the umbilical cord and come into your own. Eventually, you�ll have to be someone that has a good amount of common sense and good judgment and won�t need a bunch of rules to tell him what to do.
Furthermore, these rules pale in comparison to simply being a man who oozes with HIGH VALUE�instead of pretending to be one.
You can only get so far with pre-packaged templates for how to act around women. In fact, putting up an act will put you at risk of women seeing right through the smoke and mirrors (which is what the rules are all about).
Instead, you�re better off cultivating a genuine personality that�s consistent in word and deed. Saying one thing and doing another is NOT the way to relationship bliss.
Thus, you should be focusing on developing attraction by investing in the self-confidence that�s *already* lurking within you.
And in order to pull that off, drop by and check out this course:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
I highly suggest you check this out BEFORE you fall into the trap of playing deceptive mind games with your woman. This is your best bet to becoming the ideal version of yourself that�ll leave the ladies swooning.
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This article comes to you courtesy of www.meetyoursweet.com
If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of seduction self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet�s �Fireworks With Females,� your first stop for gal-getting strategies that really deliver.
If you want quality women, and want more than just scripted lines and one night stands, if you want the confidence and winning attitude to take your skills and success to the next level, let Slade Shaw and the team challenge your beliefs about what women really want and how to be the guy that gets her attention, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real men!
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
Worse, you have friends and colleagues giving you their own unique take on what works and what doesn�t work in a relationship. The World Wide Web is filled to the brim with all sorts of conflicting information, and it�s hard to make sense of it all.
If all of the things those authors have tried in their own lives have worked for each and every one of them�why do their books cancel each other out??
There can be only so many versions of the truth out there; it can drive an average guy NUTS.
Well, this is where your INNER VOICE comes into play. It�s really up to you to decide which piece of advice would work BEST with your unique circumstances.
And there are a lot of useful books out there that offer SENSIBLE, REAL-LIFE guidance on not only having an awesome love life, but a great lifestyle in general.
If you want such a guide to help you make sense of things, you should check out the definitive guide for guys:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen/
You need to pick this up if you want to be at your best, most authentic self that the ladies will fall for.
Yet, there are a lot of so-called dating experts who are - honestly speaking � pouring POISON into the collective ear of the male population. I mean, there�s just a TON of B.S. floating around on the web as well as in print media.
The stuff I�m talking about here is RULES. Strict, rigid rules that will only curse you to singlehood �til kingdom come.
I have to tell ya, a lot of my own friends have been badly burned from following a bunch of arbitrary �dating laws�.
What you might not know is that these rules only serve to make clueless guys even MORE narrow-minded than they were before.
I get where these rules are coming from though. With dating, so much can go wrong; believing that certain regulations within a clearly-defined system could somehow bring order to a chaotic environment.
And from a theoretical standpoint, following rules will safely keep you out of harm�s way (such as being rejected, getting dumped, etc.).
However, real life doesn�t work like that.
Personally, I�m more of a �go with the flow� kinda guy. I like to size up a situation and respond to it accordingly without a bunch of rules dictating my every move like I was some machine.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but you can�t put the world of relationships into neat little compartments as if it was a science experiment. Some people look at social dynamics in the same way as a computer program driven by inflexible rules (read: NOT true), and so they repeatedly run into DISASTER.
The thing is�a healthy, stable relationship (long-term or otherwise) isn�t brought about by religiously adhering to these �laws� like your life depended on it.
Adaptability, creativity and RESPECT towards women will give a set of dumb rules an ass-whooping any day.
Most of these �unbreakable� rules revolve around game-playing, manipulation and utter disregard for a woman�s sensibilities. Let�s take a look:
- The best way to bring a woman down a couple of notches is to take a few pot shots at her ego. The more beautiful she is, the more aggressive your disguised insults need to be.
- Before you get involved with someone new, you first need to give yourself an allowance of X number of years or months after breaking up with your previous girlfriend.
- After a date, wait X number of days before calling her back.
- You�ll need to approach a woman within X number of seconds of spotting her.
What a doozy huh? If I didn�t know better, I�d be following these rules like crazy before I ultimately run my love life to the ground.
The people who came up with these rules are probably projecting their own experiences. Therefore, it�s basically made to serve their OWN needs rather than every guy out there.
Everybody�s situation is different, so you can�t expect to use these rules as a one-size-fits-all kind of glove for the ENTIRE dating scene. These laws won�t work for every single guy in the known universe, so it�s really pointless to follow them to the letter.
It�s more important to have a PERSONALITY that�s suited to the dating world. The truth is that you can�t substitute your real self with these rules.
A personality defined by self-confidence and non-neediness will be your best guide to making the RIGHT DECISION.
Rules don�t really capture the spirit of healthy dating � they MIGHT work for you this one time, but it doesn�t follow that your precious rules will get you consistent results!
On the flip side, I can honestly appreciate the IDEA behind these rules, which is to prevent you from getting burned. Yet, narrowing general guidelines down to extremely specific tenets simply won�t work for all situations.
For instance, pinning down the exact number of days before calling ANY woman you date is just plain silly. I mean yeah, you don�t want to look super EAGER or NEEDY, but don�t you think the level of attraction will VARY from girl to girl?
Maybe a certain date of yours seemed really interested to see you again, while another woman wasn�t all that receptive to your advances. That simply means you can�t expect to apply one rule to two different people.
Since I�m feeling like a nice guy today, I�ll give you some quick pointers on the ideas BASED on the rules we talked about:
- Don�t act like a woman�s approval is your sole reason for living. Seeking validation from someone other than yourself is NOT attractive.
- If she catches on that you�re so DESPARATE to be in a relationship, you might end up driving her away.
- Don�t make a big deal out of approaching a woman. You�ll be severely wrecking your chances if you hover around her, acting all jumpy and jittery.
Nonetheless, save the algorithms for other things, like rocket science. You can�t possibly reduce social dynamics down to a mathematical equation.
No computer can intelligently decipher the complex patterns of human behavior � your BRAIN is the only tool that can do that.
Sure, rules may help you out when you�re new to the dating scene, but in the long run you�ll need to cut the umbilical cord and come into your own. Eventually, you�ll have to be someone that has a good amount of common sense and good judgment and won�t need a bunch of rules to tell him what to do.
Furthermore, these rules pale in comparison to simply being a man who oozes with HIGH VALUE�instead of pretending to be one.
You can only get so far with pre-packaged templates for how to act around women. In fact, putting up an act will put you at risk of women seeing right through the smoke and mirrors (which is what the rules are all about).
Instead, you�re better off cultivating a genuine personality that�s consistent in word and deed. Saying one thing and doing another is NOT the way to relationship bliss.
Thus, you should be focusing on developing attraction by investing in the self-confidence that�s *already* lurking within you.
And in order to pull that off, drop by and check out this course:
http://www.meetyoursweet.com/attractwomen
I highly suggest you check this out BEFORE you fall into the trap of playing deceptive mind games with your woman. This is your best bet to becoming the ideal version of yourself that�ll leave the ladies swooning.
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Thursday, April 4, 2013
How to Project a Sexual State and Bypass a Woman’s Logical Defenses
Guys always ask me for the best pick-up lines, the fanciest language patterns, the latest verbal tricks, and the most interesting gimmicks that seduce women.
These tools all work of course. Use them.
But guys who only concentrate on learning verbal language techniques are missing a CRITICAL element of the seduction.
And because of this missing element, they hardly EVER get laid.
Pick-up lines, language patterns, verbal tricks and gimmicks are NOT enough to get laid in general. They WILL get smiles and eye contact, but smiles and eye contact are far removed from a girl jumping in bed with you.
So what is the missing ingredient that so many guys leave out of the recipe?
What the typical guy doesn’t realize is that a HUGE part of the male-female interaction happens on a subtle nonverbal level... a level without words.
Consider it like this - consider verbal techniques the roof, and nonverbal projection the walls and foundation. Without the latter, the former caves in.
Let’s consider the state projected by "the typical guy" when he walks into a bar. What does he do?
The typical guy stands in the corner so as not to be noticed.
The typical guy looks at the dance floor, hypnotized by it.
The typical guy holds his drink up by his chest, as if he shielding himself.
The typical guy slouches to one side.
The typical guy looks around the room with wide, shifty eyes.
Now, how do you think beautiful women are going to react to the typical guy?
...ignore him. ...not talk to him. ...not even notice he’s there!
In other words, have total indifference toward him.
Now how about the Seduction Science guy who has conscious control over the sexual state he projects?
The Seduction Science guy is totally relaxed, without tension in his shoulders.
The Seduction Science guy smiles at beautiful women.
The Seduction Science guys holds eye contact and isn’t the first to break it.
The Seduction Science guy moves across the room deliberately, with purposeful control.
The Seduction Science guy isn’t hypnotized by the dance floor.
The Seduction Science guy doesn’t flinch when approaching a woman.
The Seduction Science guy is laid back enough to pop wood in the presence of beautiful women and laugh about it.
Imagine walking into a club, projecting and oozing sexuality - relaxed, laid back, and with a smile. The girls sense your sexual relaxation as soon as you enter. You look at the woman who catches your eye, approach her with a cocky swagger, invade her personal space without apology, and look her right in the eyes with a smile just for her. You pause, lean back, look her body up and down once playfully, and say "Hi."
Of course, her friends will start to giggle given then social tension you’ve just created – which is sexy to women. And your target won’t be able to keep her eyes off you – as you’re so close and so cool that her heart can’t help beating faster.
ALL OF THIS CAN HAPPEN WITHOUT SAYING A DAMN WORD!
And see the difference between the energy projected by the typical guy and the energy projected by someone who is in control of their nonverbal sexual state?
The first leads to indifference. The second, to grabbing women’s attention and making their hearts flutter and their breaths gasp.
So WHY is nonverbal communication for projecting a sexual state so important to seduction?
Verbal communication only stimulates the CONSCIOUS part of a woman’s mind – the high-level, thinking part of her mind that accepts and blocks input based on logic.
For example, if you try to convince a woman to sleep with you by going up to her and saying, "Hey babe - I’m the HOTTEST guy you have EVER seen," you can’t expect her to swoon all over you. Your verbal communication is engaging the conscious, logical part of her mind that filters input. Your command is blocked.
"Yeah right!" she might probably tell you.
But nonverbal communication is not processed by a woman’s conscious mind, like language is. Nonverbal communication is processed by a woman’s reptilian brain – the physical part of her brain that evolved millions of years before the Mammalian Limbic brain ever evolved around it.
The reptilian brain is much like a baby’s brain. It doesn’t think "yes" or "no" or with any kind of logic. Whatever goes in is simply accepted, or it fights or it flees.
So if you go up to a woman and say to her, "Hey babe - I’m the HOTTEST guy you have EVER seen," and your BODY LANGUAGE is CONGRUENT with your words, she WILL feel attracted to you.
"Gulp," she might respond.
NOT because of what you said, but because of HOW you said it.
In other words, if you go up to a woman and start reading out of the telephone book, "Martin John... 555-6666... Peter Timberlake... 666-7777" but WITH the body language of, "Hey babe – I’m the HOTTEST guy you have EVER seen," she will STILL feel attracted to you.
Why?
Because it’s your nonverbal cues - the sexual state that you’re projecting – that directly bypasses her conscious, critical mind and directly affects her much old, reptilian brain that only feels sex or flight.
By being able to project sexual states, you’ll be able to comfortably feel and act sexual around beautiful women, and in turn have beautiful women feel sexual attraction for you. You’ll be able to use your nonverbal sexual communication to directly bypass the critical walls of a woman’s conscious mind and directly touch the reptilian brain behind it that responds to sex.
Of course, in this report I just described SOME of what is takes to project a sexual state through nonverbal cues.
... but what about projecting and controlling your voice?
... what about moving in and invading a woman’s personal space?
... what about keeping your body language free and open?
All of this is and more is explored in detail in the audio course Nonverbal Sexual Cuing. Nonverbal Sexual Cuing has some GREAT advice on how to control your nonverbal body language and how to project a sexual state - as well as visualization walk-through rehearsals that you can do at home even BEFORE you go out.
Remember, no matter how many languaging techniques you have, they won’t help you unless your body language isn’t that of a nervous, needy "typical guy"! That’s why Nonverbal Sexual Cuing can lay the FOUNDATION of your success, while my Seduction Science System course builds the HOUSE.
Regards,
Derek Vitalio
Learn the Science of Seduction
http://www.seductionscience.com
These tools all work of course. Use them.
But guys who only concentrate on learning verbal language techniques are missing a CRITICAL element of the seduction.
And because of this missing element, they hardly EVER get laid.
Pick-up lines, language patterns, verbal tricks and gimmicks are NOT enough to get laid in general. They WILL get smiles and eye contact, but smiles and eye contact are far removed from a girl jumping in bed with you.
So what is the missing ingredient that so many guys leave out of the recipe?
What the typical guy doesn’t realize is that a HUGE part of the male-female interaction happens on a subtle nonverbal level... a level without words.
Consider it like this - consider verbal techniques the roof, and nonverbal projection the walls and foundation. Without the latter, the former caves in.
Let’s consider the state projected by "the typical guy" when he walks into a bar. What does he do?
The typical guy stands in the corner so as not to be noticed.
The typical guy looks at the dance floor, hypnotized by it.
The typical guy holds his drink up by his chest, as if he shielding himself.
The typical guy slouches to one side.
The typical guy looks around the room with wide, shifty eyes.
Now, how do you think beautiful women are going to react to the typical guy?
...ignore him. ...not talk to him. ...not even notice he’s there!
In other words, have total indifference toward him.
Now how about the Seduction Science guy who has conscious control over the sexual state he projects?
The Seduction Science guy is totally relaxed, without tension in his shoulders.
The Seduction Science guy smiles at beautiful women.
The Seduction Science guys holds eye contact and isn’t the first to break it.
The Seduction Science guy moves across the room deliberately, with purposeful control.
The Seduction Science guy isn’t hypnotized by the dance floor.
The Seduction Science guy doesn’t flinch when approaching a woman.
The Seduction Science guy is laid back enough to pop wood in the presence of beautiful women and laugh about it.
Imagine walking into a club, projecting and oozing sexuality - relaxed, laid back, and with a smile. The girls sense your sexual relaxation as soon as you enter. You look at the woman who catches your eye, approach her with a cocky swagger, invade her personal space without apology, and look her right in the eyes with a smile just for her. You pause, lean back, look her body up and down once playfully, and say "Hi."
Of course, her friends will start to giggle given then social tension you’ve just created – which is sexy to women. And your target won’t be able to keep her eyes off you – as you’re so close and so cool that her heart can’t help beating faster.
ALL OF THIS CAN HAPPEN WITHOUT SAYING A DAMN WORD!
And see the difference between the energy projected by the typical guy and the energy projected by someone who is in control of their nonverbal sexual state?
The first leads to indifference. The second, to grabbing women’s attention and making their hearts flutter and their breaths gasp.
So WHY is nonverbal communication for projecting a sexual state so important to seduction?
Verbal communication only stimulates the CONSCIOUS part of a woman’s mind – the high-level, thinking part of her mind that accepts and blocks input based on logic.
For example, if you try to convince a woman to sleep with you by going up to her and saying, "Hey babe - I’m the HOTTEST guy you have EVER seen," you can’t expect her to swoon all over you. Your verbal communication is engaging the conscious, logical part of her mind that filters input. Your command is blocked.
"Yeah right!" she might probably tell you.
But nonverbal communication is not processed by a woman’s conscious mind, like language is. Nonverbal communication is processed by a woman’s reptilian brain – the physical part of her brain that evolved millions of years before the Mammalian Limbic brain ever evolved around it.
The reptilian brain is much like a baby’s brain. It doesn’t think "yes" or "no" or with any kind of logic. Whatever goes in is simply accepted, or it fights or it flees.
So if you go up to a woman and say to her, "Hey babe - I’m the HOTTEST guy you have EVER seen," and your BODY LANGUAGE is CONGRUENT with your words, she WILL feel attracted to you.
"Gulp," she might respond.
NOT because of what you said, but because of HOW you said it.
In other words, if you go up to a woman and start reading out of the telephone book, "Martin John... 555-6666... Peter Timberlake... 666-7777" but WITH the body language of, "Hey babe – I’m the HOTTEST guy you have EVER seen," she will STILL feel attracted to you.
Why?
Because it’s your nonverbal cues - the sexual state that you’re projecting – that directly bypasses her conscious, critical mind and directly affects her much old, reptilian brain that only feels sex or flight.
By being able to project sexual states, you’ll be able to comfortably feel and act sexual around beautiful women, and in turn have beautiful women feel sexual attraction for you. You’ll be able to use your nonverbal sexual communication to directly bypass the critical walls of a woman’s conscious mind and directly touch the reptilian brain behind it that responds to sex.
Of course, in this report I just described SOME of what is takes to project a sexual state through nonverbal cues.
... but what about projecting and controlling your voice?
... what about moving in and invading a woman’s personal space?
... what about keeping your body language free and open?
All of this is and more is explored in detail in the audio course Nonverbal Sexual Cuing. Nonverbal Sexual Cuing has some GREAT advice on how to control your nonverbal body language and how to project a sexual state - as well as visualization walk-through rehearsals that you can do at home even BEFORE you go out.
Remember, no matter how many languaging techniques you have, they won’t help you unless your body language isn’t that of a nervous, needy "typical guy"! That’s why Nonverbal Sexual Cuing can lay the FOUNDATION of your success, while my Seduction Science System course builds the HOUSE.
Regards,
Derek Vitalio
Learn the Science of Seduction
http://www.seductionscience.com
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