Are You Afraid Of Talking To Beautiful Women?

Hi Dude,

Do you suffer from approach anxiety, not knowing what to say,
feeling like you're never good enough, putting women an a pedestal,
trying to get beautiful women to like you, or just plain being
overwhelmed with fear around hot women?

There are a lot of books on talking to women out there, and most of
them don't ever deal with the core problem a lot of men I know face
when it comes to talking to beautiful women.

The problem that leaves you feeling powerless around them.

Something you learned early on in life and are probably still
hanging onto because subconsciously you believe your very survival
is at stake.

The question to ask yourself if you feel fearful talking to
beautiful women is:

How do you feel around your mother?

You need to answer this question honestly, and since you may be
ashamed of the answer I'm not going to ask you to share it with
anyone; but you do need to be honest with yourself about it.

Many guys I know who struggle with anxiety when talking to beautiful
women also find it difficult to really “be themselves” around their
own mothers. Often they had an overly critical or controlling
mother, and the hard truth is that they are still emotionally
enmeshed in an adult/child relationship with her.

Even if she's not alive any more.

So why does this make you anxious around hot women?

Well, there was a time in your life when your survival depended upon
your mother. She had complete power over you and could control
everything from what you ate and where you went, to what you did and
who you spent your time with.

As a baby you couldn't even feed yourself, so if she abandoned you,
you would die. And you knew it.

Like it or not, your mother had total power over you.

Now that you're an adult, beautiful women have the power. In a
society like ours where appearance gives women high social status,
beautiful women have a lot of sexual power. If you're still enmeshed
with your mother, your subconscious will project onto these women
all the repressed fear, anxiety and anger that you may still be
holding towards your controlling mother.

That's why you freak out when you go to talk to them.

Repressed emotions get triggered subconsciously whenever you go to
talk to a powerfully beautiful woman. It's not your fault; it's just
the way emotions in your brain work.

You got wounded in your relationship with the first powerful woman
in your life when you were a child, and now that wound is getting
triggered by every hot woman you meet as an adult.

So how do you get over this fear?

You need to heal the wound and claim your power back by breaking the
childish emotional connection that you have with your critical
mother. Otherwise, anxiety will keep going off each time you
encounter a beautiful woman.

Stop giving your power away and quit seeking validation from
attractive women. Take them off the pedestal and realise that
they're no better than you. In fact, they have many of the same
anxieties and struggles as you have; often more so.

Most importantly, realise that they are not your mother and you
don't need their approval.

The process of severing the adult/child emotional connection between
you and your mother is one of the most important stages in a man's
development. Without doing this you'll subconsciously treat other
women as your mother, constantly seeking from them the approval that
you didn't get from her. This makes you a very unattractive
proposition to high-status women, and will undermine any
relationship that you do happen to get into with a woman.

Get this right though, and the anxiety you feel around hot women
will literally be a thing of the past.

I call the process of switching the relationship with your mother
(and other women) from adult/child to adult/adult "forgiveness".
This will make total sense to you when you learn how to do this byreading Step 8: Forgive Your Mother in The Confident Man ProgramGuide