Body language is VERY important. According to
studies carried out over 50% of your communication comes from your body
language – what you DON’T say and less then 8% of your communication
comes from what you DO say.
What does this mean to you?
It is MORE important to pay careful
attention to HOW you say things, and HOW you stand and HOW you act than
it is to WHAT you say (at least initially).
You see, you could have the BEST game in
the world and be able to really get any woman to like you loads, for
example online, but if you used those same successful techniques in the
real world and lacked obvious confidence, lacked eye contact etc – You
would simply CRASH and BURN.
Honestly, body language is SOOOO important
in attracting women. Later in the course we’ll go into how you can use
the female’s body language to READ her mind and know what she’s
thinking. This article is about YOUR body language.
Ok… So, I’ll cover the basics as the
advanced stuff is beyond the scope of this article (if you want more
advanced detail concerning body language you can check out my site:
Body language basics:
1. Smile
You have to make the female feel at ease
and comfortable that you are a friendly and fun guy and you are not a
psycho as quick as possible. Especially when talking to her for the
first time. You also need to let her know that you are confident and
comfortable around women. A big and genuine smile is the best way to do
this. It works. In fact, if you ever get an Ice Queen that you can
tell is about to give you the “dead eye”, give her a big smile.
Practice smiling at random people. You’ll be surprised by how many
people smile back and at how many doors open to you. Smiling WORKS.
Just don’t make it a cheesy, fake smile ;)
2. Eye contact
As you know there’s nothing worse than
staring at a woman’s chest – or even looking. It makes you just like
all the other guys who drool over her. If anything you should use all
your skill to NOT look at her chest – she’ll wonder why her womanly
powers don’t work with you and she’ll seek your attention and
subconsciously TRY to get you to look!
When talking to her, try to maintain eye
contact. Not too much because it can be intimidating, but if you aim to
have eye contact with her around 70% of the time you are talking, this
should be comfortable for most women. Don’t stare like a crazy man,
just be natural but if you naturally look away or are slightly shy when
it comes to eye contact, make a conscious effort to have a little
more. Eye contact can make serious connections within people. They say
the eyes are a window to the soul and I think there may be some truth
to that. There are even speed dating type events being run that involve
just staring into each others eyes – and from what I hear, they are
pretty successful.
Maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70% of conversation time. Be natural.
3. Upright posture
Guys can get away with a bit of a hunch,
but women really do prefer men with straight, upright postures. Look at
all the big film actors like Pitt, Cruise etc. They all have good
posture. It says to a woman you are confident, healthy, and strong (at
least in mind). It’s just generally more attractive and says lots about
who you are. Plus it’s good for your back and will help strengthen
your back muscles making it easier to maintain.
Get into the HABIT of having an upright posture.
4. Gesticulate with open palms
You will not hear this tip anywhere else (or if you do, it was almost certainly copied from this course).
I’ve gone into in depth studies of body
language and this one is a good one to use in MANY circumstances – I’ve
adapted it here after solid testing to picking up women – however,
some people suggest that when combined with a few other verbal and
non-verbal techniques it can even give you a 50/50 chance of getting
out of speeding fines!
Anyway, basically, when you are talking to
a woman and trying to make a point (that puts you in a positive light)
or defend yourself (for example, a girl suggests you might be a
player) you talk and using your hands you have open palms facing
upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body with your palms facing
the sky and smile as you talk.
It works VERY well on a subconscious level
to suggest you are being honest and telling the truth. And if you want
a woman to begin to trust you, making her think you are being straight
with her, is important.
This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile to work effectively.
Those are the basics of body language, if you'd like to learn more visit Tiffany Taylor's site by clicking here
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