What dictates how successful a person can become in any given field? Is it chance, fortune, good luck? No.
Take an athlete for example, regardless of
their chosen discipline, they must WORK at becoming the best. Even if
they got lucky with their genes, have a good build or quick reactions,
it is absolutely vital they learn, understand and PRACTICE whatever
sport it is they want to master. If they don’t, they will never be
number one, or even anywhere close.
The very same principle applies to
attracting and seducing women, quite simply, the looks or assets you
were or weren’t blessed with naturally mean nothing if you cannot
master the psychological side of the game. For example, there’s a guy
who looks like Brad Pitt’s better looking long-lost brother, his body,
hair and dress-sense are all flawless. But, when he opens his
mouth…nothing. His attitude, personality and character fall completely
flat and instantly put off every woman in the room. He’s gone from
being a mysterious, handsome stranger, to an unexciting and tedious
guy, who’s good for nothing except looking at and admiring – which gets
very boring, very fast.
Now, the reverse. There’s a guy who
doesn’t immediately stand out of the crowd because of what he looks or
dresses like or because of the car he’s just rolled up in. Women are
fairly neutral towards him, they neither feel attracted to him or
turned off. Then, he talks and it’s like a fire has been lit, he’s fun,
charming and great to be around – in short, massively attractive.
If you want to be that first guy, I don’t
know what to suggest, except perhaps painful, expensive surgery. But if
you’d rather resemble the second man (as any sane guy would), you need
to do something a little different – you need to eradicate
self-limiting beliefs. Self-limiting beliefs are the internal thoughts
and feelings that hold you back and restrict your ability to succeed.
They’re irrational and counter-productive thoughts that everyone has,
but very few people try to get rid of – which is why so few men are
truly successful with women. Here are a couple of examples of
self-limiting beliefs:
- “Nah, she’s too good-looking. She wouldn’t be interested in a guy like me.”
- “Women can sense inexperience and won’t give a guy the time of day if they think he’s not sophisticated or experienced.”
- “Girls only want sex with strings attached and would never consider sleeping with me unless I have money or a powerful job.”
- “That girl’s way too popular – just look at the guys who are already all over her. She’s rejecting them so would definitely say no to me.”
The crazy thing with self-limiting beliefs
is that they only restrict YOU and you alone. They do this because they
are not logical, true facts that are widely accepted as fundamental
truths. They’re manifested in your mind because you feel nervous and
apprehensive – it’s your body’s way of protecting itself, just like it
would have thousands of years ago to stop you getting into physical
danger. These days, the only danger is that you miss a golden
opportunity to hook up with a great, sexy girl. Here are 3 simple rules
to always remember, use them to get rid of self-limiting beliefs.
Rule 1. Ground yourself in the present and
don’t think about the past or potential future. If you’re in a bar
looking at a girl from afar, forget about times gone by that you cocked
up a first impression. Furthermore, don’t try to predict what could go
wrong or awry. Your goal, of meeting and getting together with a hot
female, is a positive one – so keep all thoughts before, during and
after meeting her positive, too.
Rule 2. Don’t let other people mould your
perception of yourself and the situation you’re in. Forget about the
guys around you, all trying to impress girls and assert themselves as
alpha males. When you show a care-free, easy-going attitude to how to
move, talk and behave you become infinitely more attractive to women
than all the men who are blatantly trying too hard.
Rule 3. Let negative thoughts and phrases,
like those above, slip completely from your consciousness. Looks,
wealth and social status mean little when they aren’t accompanied by a
strong, attractive persona and personality. Let your words and
confident body language take precedence and forget all about
superficial possessions and all-too-common “good looks.”
W. Wilcox is the author of HypnoDate
– a revolutionary manual that teaches men how to use special hypnotic
principles to become masters of attraction and seduction, without the
need for good looks, money or a flash car.
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