by Tiffany Taylor
There’s something that often happens when
you’re out playing the ‘seduction game’ – that is, when you’re actively
looking out for girls you think you’d like to hook-up with. Many men
have experienced it, and many thousands of men still do experience it
when they themselves are out playing the game. It usually goes
something like this: you’re in a group, talking to a couple of girls.
You’re with a friend or two, perhaps having drinks in a bar or at a
party. You’ve got your eye on one girl in the group in particular and
want to make something happen, make a bit of a connection. Thing is,
she’s proving the hardest to connect to – sure, she smiles and talks to
you nicely and politely, but she’s not returning your flirtatious
gestures and comments much, if at all. It’s like she’s playing hard to
get or something, whereas her female friends seem to be much more
playful and flirty.
This doesn’t happen because you aren’t her
type or just because sometimes these things happen (or don’t) –
there’s a different, special reason the girl you’re interested in
doesn’t appear to be interested in you and it’s got a lot to do with
psychology and social standing. You see, when you show you’re
interested in a good-looking girl who’s with her friends, you
inadvertently bump up her ego and feeling of self-worth. She knows
you’ve chosen and are most interested in her and likes this feeling of
elevated importance. However, she also knows that if she reacts by
becoming really flirty and obviously attracted to YOU, she’ll lose the
higher social value she has over her friends (probably the reason you
targeted her in the first place), so she therefore maintains her
unattainable, “I’m a bit too good for you” status.
However, you can blow this problem out of
the water by using DEFLECTION THEORY. You turn the situation on its
head and reverse the psychology of your target female by deflecting your
attention AWAY from her and ONTO one or more of her friends. When you
show her friends (who have lower social value/worth than your target
female) more attention and affection, you challenge her ego. So, in an
effort to regain her superiority in the hierarchy of her circle of
friends, the girl you’re really interested in will subconsciously
invest much MORE interest in you by flirting and being playful. As so
many women do, she gives into wanting what she feels she cannot have –
and, of course, you’ll be happy to have her. She is, after all, the
hottest of the group and the one you wanted in the first place. Here’s
how to deflect your attention onto one of her friends to make her (the
girl you want) feel as if her ego has been challenged and thus make her
feel an instant and undeniable desire to get your attention and “win”
you back.
- Use strong eye contact when talking to
all of the girls. However, when you’re talking to your target female,
occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls (who will
probably be talking amongst themselves or to your friend/friends if
you’re with any) and give a slight smile before looking back at your
target. This jackhammers a sense of competition into the subconscious
mind of the girl you’re really interested in and immediately makes her
want to fight for your attention.
- Casually make physical contact with her
friends more than her. For example, touch them on the side of their
arm to get their attention or when laughing and joking.
- When sitting down or standing around talking as a group, face slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the direction of one of her friends more than her.
Using deflection theory to challenge a girl you’re
interested in’s ego and therefore make her want you more is just one
psychological technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine
it with others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in
ways most men have and never will experience. You can be the guy that
gets the girl!
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