Touching/physical contact is an absolutely vital
component of seduction. You can’t successfully pick-up a girl without
first establishing a basic level of mutual tactility – I.E. Before you
can move in for the kill by kissing and/or sleeping with her, you MUST
first have a regular, healthy amount of touching that works both ways:
she flirtatiously puts her hand on your knee, you encircle her waist
with your arm and pull her a little closer – whatever form the physical
contact takes, it has to be present for you to achieve your final goal
of actual seduction. And that right there is where the problem for
many men lies: how can a guy get the ball rolling when it comes to
tactility and physical closeness? If the girl’s not being tactile, how
can a guy develop mutual physical closeness without freaking her out or
scaring her away?
Often men just “go for it” and
consequently end up making the girl feel uncomfortable or even slightly
violated because of their rushed attempt at physical closeness. Other
men decide they don’t want to risk putting a girl off, so hold back any
kind of touching or bodily contact – doing so usually sends out the
wrong message, that the guy is either not interested in the girl, or
that he’s simply too timid to show it, neither of which are attractive
scenarios in the mind of a good-looking, fun-loving girl. Okay, so
what’s the solution to this awkward problem?
Quite simply, you just need to follow a
few basic rules or procedures, all of which conform to the personal
boundaries of most girl (and therefore don’t appear uncalled for or
rushed) but at the same time clearly indicate that you’re a confident
guy who’s not afraid of getting to know girls and even showing it
through casual, relaxed physical contact. So, let’s take a look.
- Many men think that touching a girl in
any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that’s
simply not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and create
an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get
talking, casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while
at the same time verbally expressing something. The outside of a
woman’s arm is not intimate enough a place for the touch to feel
strange or out-of-place, but at the same time it’s a clear-cut sign
that you’re a personable, socially adept kind of guy. Don’t be afraid
to give it a try – you’ll notice the benefits immediately.
- Once you’ve started a conversation with
a girl, or when you randomly find yourself chatting to a woman you
really like the look of, it’s important to keep up the physical
contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you’ve already
created and also helps build it further, into mutually felt sexual
attraction. You can use something called ‘Stealth Tactility’ to do
this. Quite simply, stealth tactility involves making physical contact
with the girl in a disguised way. For example, if she wants to go to
the bar or bathroom but doesn’t know the way, you can use stealth
tactility by placing your hand on her shoulder, drawing her in a little
closer, swivelling both of your bodies round until you face in the
right direction, then point past other people or obstacles with your
other hand to where she needs to go.
- Lastly, always try to use a ‘contact close’ when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss. Many men think that the hard work’s been done once something’s been arranged for a later date, but making physical contact before you part with a girl is always a great way of ensuring she remembers you and really cannot wait to see you again.
Tiffany Taylor is the
female author of GuyGetsGirl, a special guide that reveals for the
first time what goes on the minds of women AND how men can use special
psychological and social techniques to attract and seduce them –
regardless of their looks, bank balance or the car they drive. Attract And Seduce Women Today
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