Most men aren’t skilful or successful when it comes
to meeting and dating women. There are two main reasons for this: they
don’t get out there and sell themselves, meet women and make
connections. And when, once in every blue moon, they do try it on with a
girl, they fall flat on their faces, not knowing how to handle the
situation, the conversation, the interaction and attraction. There’s a
single word that ties these two reasons for failure together, it’s
rejection.
Men who would love to meet and date a
beautiful girl or two choose not to go out and actually try to make it
happen, on the most part, because of a deep-seated fear of rejection.
They hate the idea that they might get shot down and embarrassed. And
they know that if they try their hardest and STILL get rejected, they
definitely have no hope with women, now or ever. So, they prefer to
stay at home with the vague ambition that one day they might make
something happen.
On the other hand, there are men out there
that do try to meet and get together with girls – and, unfortunately,
they get rejected every now and then. Once it’s happened a couple of
times, those brush-offs take their toll on the guy: his confidence
dwindles, his sense of humor begins to fade, and most noticeably, his
motivation vanishes. He becomes like 80% of the rest of the male
population: a dreamer and not a do’er.
The first thing you need to do is recognise
the POSITIVE function rejection serves. You need to define it in your
mind. What is it and what does it mean? Rejection often comes in the
following forms:
1. You’ve been talking to a girl for a
while and things seem to be going well but when you ask to see her
again or suggest swapping numbers she suddenly freezes up on you and
shuts you out.
2. You try to get talking to a girl but she
only gives you the minimal amount of recognition possible and doesn’t
allow you to start a real conversation.
3. You’ve been on a couple of dates with a
girl but have yet to take it further. When you try to progress the
relationship, she clams up and becomes distant and seemingly
uninterested.
Whatever type of rejection you’ve
experience or fear the most, you need to fully recognise what it is.
It’s a sign that one or more components of your game – that is, your
ability to be successful with women – isn’t functioning correctly. It’s
like a flashing red light in a submarine, it’s telling you something
ain’t right and, most importantly, that you need to DO something to fix
it. That’s the key point most men consistently miss – they think being
rejected is the end of the line, game over. In fact, it’s simply a
changing of the tracks on your path to success. Consider the following
important points whenever you feel rejection negatively controlling your
ability to do well with the opposite sex:
1. If a girl rejects your advances when you
introduce yourself or try to start a conversation, it means she has
decided that, for whatever reason, you aren’t someone she wants to get
to know. However, remember this absolutely critical fact: she’s made
her decision based on how you presented yourself in the short amount of
time she knew/knows you. Rethinking how you act, speak and behave can
produce a reaction that falls at the complete opposite end of the scale
from rejection and failure: one of success and triumph. Don’t let a
single brush-off impact your motivation or confidence, simply see it as
a sign that you need to alter and rethink your strategy.
2. Never take things personally when you’re
playing the seduction game. Although a girl might not be interested in
you, it doesn’t mean she’s necessarily right to feel that way or
correct in the assumption she’s made of you. People make snap decisions
and have knee-jerk reactions to people, places and situations every
day, in the positive AND negative. Your goal is to make a good first
impression and exude a strong sense of confidence and relaxation. Once
you do that, your bad luck seems to magically disappear and a new
long-term streak of good fortune begins. (Which is actually thanks to
the fact that you didn’t let rejection get you down and instead used it
as a sign that you needed to change something.)
If you can remember the concepts above and
use them when ‘out in the field’, you’ll notice an almost hypnotic
effect most men out there would kill to have themselves. Because, you
see, it’s when you yourself can brush-off the brush-offs that real
success happens and also what leads to you meeting and getting to know
the girl of your dreams.
W. Wilcox is the author of HypnoDate
– a revolutionary manual that teaches men how to use special hypnotic
principles to become masters of attraction and seduction, without the
need for good looks, money or a flash car.
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